So what happened I just met someone on the dating site that has seen my picture and now knows my full name.  I guess technically we're officially internet dating. He's writing his life story and I'm doing the same and we're exchanging. I have a feeling I might end up in hell for leaving out the minor detail that I transgender. He mentioned something to me in his last email that he had seen my pictures. I only have one picture on the male site , but on the female side I put up three pictures. On the female side I wrote that I was a transgender lesbian. The pictures are all of me and there's no doubt who their of. My name is the same on both the female side and the male side. I'm thinking he might of seen the transgender acknowledgement , but I can't say for sure. He's a good looking widower my age. I want to experience him, but I'll probably end up in hell for waiting to tell him I'm trans. He lives on the Pacific coast so there's no chance of us meeting unless down the road something happens. Anyone want to throw their 2 cents in.

Hmmm! Ok going to just keep it to myself but ya!

I already gave you my two pennies worth on your last post.  I stand by it.

Quote from: herekitten on January 09, 2015, 03:42:20 PM
I already gave you my two pennies worth on your last post.  I stand by it.

that's how I'd like to do it

I continue to claim that the details of your past are yours to tell or not tell as you see fit.

thanks for all the responses I'm entering uncharted waters

As Sartre said: hell is other people.

Hell is other people, because they generate self-consciousness in us, or make us view ourselves as an object from the perspective of another -- only this is inaccurate, deceptive, generated by our own hopes and fears. The radical alterity, extreme "otherness", difference of people makes this fruitless -- it is to dance with demons.

Don't toy with other's emotions and time because you fear your own judgment of yourself, having no real idea what their's may be. That is my view, if you desire honesty. 

My Cupid profile clearly states at the top "MtF transgender, in that context you will treat me and respect me as the woman I am".

I am not looking to get hurt for misleading a guy.  It's fair warning to them, I put it out in the open and if I get messages so be it, if not then no big deal.  But I value my safety before landing an easy quick date.  And so far I get tons of profile views and quite a few messages.  Which tells me, that for the most part, most men do not care.

So I pray for your safety and hope things work out for you, just keep your guard up and be ready in case something stinky hits the fan.

Might gonna sound rough but after seeing a few posts of you being on OKCupid.. Don't take that app so seriously. Most just want a quicky, a simple chat. I haven't come across anyone yet so far who ever had a succesful relationship trough apps like OKCupid.

So when someone calls you beautiful, messages you or spoke to you a few times.. Don't be on love instantly. It won't bring you good that way.

Well, there's no way I'd get away with it, it looks like we might be putting all the cards on the table anyway, He says he going to write me a long email and I'll see where he's going and write him back. He's well educated and a  high earner so it would most likely be in both our best interests to put everything on the table because I'm not into getting hurt or hurting others, He's a widower so I'm not going to play any games. He's really handsome and would be a great catch , but really no  way I'd get away  with any kind of deception. wow , he's 6 ft and I'm only 5'5 so I'd be pretty dumb to let it go very far. He looks good though I'm having an incredibly hard time anyway trying to understand why he interested, this really has come as a big surprise. I'm not hiding anything , my picture is me totally except extremely minimal make up.

Quote from: Kirey on January 09, 2015, 08:26:51 PM
Might gonna sound rough but after seeing a few posts of you being on OKCupid.. Don't take that app so seriously. Most just want a quicky, a simple chat. I haven't come across anyone yet so far who ever had a succesful relationship trough apps like OKCupid.

So when someone calls you beautiful, messages you or spoke to you a few times.. Don't be on love instantly. It won't bring you good that way.

I know , I've taken a few trips around the block, I just put my picture up for an experiment and I'm seeing where it goes.

Quote from: stephaniec on January 09, 2015, 08:35:16 PM
Well, there's no way I'd get away with it, it looks like we might be putting all the cards on the table anyway, He says he going to write me a long email and I'll see where he's going and write him back. He's well educated and a  high earner so it would most likely be in both our best interests to put everything on the table because I'm not into getting hurt or hurting others, He's a widower so I'm not going to play any games. He's really handsome and would be a great catch , but really no  way I'd get away  with any kind of deception. wow , he's 6 ft and I'm only 5'5 so I'd be pretty dumb to let it go very far. He looks good though I'm having an incredibly hard time anyway trying to understand why he interested, this really has come as a big surprise. I'm not hiding anything , my picture is me totally except extremely minimal make up.

You're not going to hell...just live the best you can with what you have, and you're good to go. (Although I'm not a post-life lawyer, I just play one on  the interwebz) 

My thought regarding "why" he might be interested...maybe he's been around the block a few times since being widowed, and the women (cis- ) that were attracted to him were all gold-diggers or otherwise yucky.

And being well-read/educated, he's just recently came across articles about trans* people, how we're women on the inside...and he's willing to give you a shot, trusting that you are a good woman, truly after him and not his money/position.

(btw, I do have occasional bouts of romanticism, so take this with a spoonful of ipecac if needed)

Good luck!

well one of the things he said was that he was adventurous

True Love... I would be honest.




Youre pretty in a way.... kind of remind me of Fergie. If you know her