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Not sure what to make of this....

Started by Monika the diva, January 10, 2015, 02:16:44 AM

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Monika the diva

Hi Everyone,

Here's one of my many stories, this one i don't know what to make of it. I felt utterly embarrassed. Anyway, i walk into a bar dressed as a girl and i'm meeting with my brother and my sister in law. I'm inviting my sister in law out to dinner for her B-day. Anyway, the bouncer asked for my ID, because i am new at transitioning i didn't know what to make of it. So i handed him my driver's license and he looked at the picture and he looked back at me. I looked at him and i said "Look, i know that photo no longer matches my appearance but that's the old me." He gave me back my ID and i walked away. I had dinner and on my way out i noticed that he was talking to the hostess but i didn't even hear the conversation they were having. My brother has better hearing than i did. I said good night to my brother and sister in law. When i got home my brother text me.

Him: Hey are you okay?
Me: Yeah, I'm fine. Why?
HIm: Well, That bouncer was gossiping to the hostess telling her that you're a guy because of your license.
Me: Well that guy's a dick and he obviously doesn't respect trans people. Thanks for the heads up.

After that i never went back. I refuse to go back to that bar until i am able to change my license sex, name and photo.

At this point i keep thinking about this moment and i still don't know what to make of it.
I am 34 year-old single Latina plus size MtF trans female. If i lose 30 pounds i can be as fit as Queen Latifa right now. I am currently 6 months on HRT. I am open about being trans. I am 100% out at my branch at work and I am 98% out with my external family. I am a hardcore gamer and a writer. I love Karoake and studying psychology.
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Cindy

Just one of those things Hon.

I wouldn't even worry about it, get your ID's changed and it is all over.
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suzifrommd

Quote from: Monika the diva on January 10, 2015, 02:16:44 AM
At this point i keep thinking about this moment and i still don't know what to make of it.

You pass.

If you didn't, the bouncer wouldn't have felt the need to point out your status to the hostess - it would have been obvious, right?
Have you read my short story The Eve of Triumph?
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