Alright. I recently lost my father, so my mother had memorial for all those whom he touched while he lived. Well before my father "transitioned" he was aware and was beyond....supportive/thrilled/accepting. However, I chose to step away from many of our friends. Per my request I asked him to keep it within the close family(Mom,Dad and myself). In my mind, I figured I would wait until I experienced top surgery, was being recognized full time as male in public and let the "T" do its thing. Due to the obvious series of unfortunate events that did not happen. So, we had my father's final memorial and of course I spoke. I made nice with the family members that I dislike and loved on the ones that I enjoy. While we ate there was a woman,whom knew my family for years and was apart of the "church", that asked for clarification as to which child I was; as she recalled there was a girl child. Well, I laughed and told her that she was here in spirit. In retrospect it was a poor choice of words because she asked for further clarity. I stated plainly that I was at one point that girl child but I have become a male. Her surprise and uncomfortable "OOH!!" made me chuckle. She seemed embarrassed and turned a bit red. I laughed with a bit of cheer and admitted that I had used a poor choice of words. The conversation moved on but it dawned on my that coming out is not just within your family, it extends to the past, present and the future. Much like when people ask others, "What are you doing with your life?". Transitioning seems to require a full honesty with everyone. Especially those you thought you could out run into the future. LOL. Cheers Gents. I hope your future is filled with growth and happiness.
