I am going to do it.
I am finally going to do it.
I am going to come out to my mom.

I have written letters (and psyched myself out before I could give them to her). She knew something was up, but didn't say anything.

Then, the other night, she asked me why I dress the way I do. We were interrupted before I could answer, but it's been pressing on me since.

Now I asked her if she would like to go to dinner with me tonight - just us two (which never happens...EVER) - and she said yes. So...I am definitely going to do it tonight!

Does anyone have any last minute tips? Anything I should remember to add? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. thank you.

just be you. If your mom has been getting the hints than this should hopefully go well. I saw you posted this elsewhere too but I wanted to let you know that you've got it.

Good luck and please let us know the results.

Stay on point

Show confidence

Be yourself and do not back down or compromise.

Love, live and laugh.

My standard piece of advice is to be clear about what you want in coming out to her. Just telling her you are trans may leave her in a mix of emotions (some good, some not very good at all). So you are trans - do you want to transition? How? When? To what benefit? What would you ask of her - to let you go on HRT, dress the way you want, cut your hair differently, see a counsellor, allow you to change your name... all of the above? Don't get into trying to justify yourself or explain why you are trans, tell her instead how it makes you feel when you aren't presenting as the gender you identify as - miserable, depressed, unfulfilled, or however.

Good luck! Hugs

I came out to her, and it went very well! She gave me advice: to just be me, whoever that may be, and to do whatever makes me happy. that could not have made me more happy. We're going to talk more about it tomorrow, but I'm just glad to get it out of the way.

well alright! I'm glad she was understanding. now you can move to the next step

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woop woop good work!!
well done!
that took major guts. all the other little comings out are easy peasy compared to that one!