If you could choose to be a bombshell looking transsexual who is NOT so passable or to be perceived as a passable GG woman but ordinary-looking, which one would you choose?

I know many T-girls who are Goddesses but do NOT pass cos of their voice for example while others are super duper passable with no trace whatsoever of their past but are average-looking.

You prefer to be a BOMBSHELL TRANSSEXUAL or ORDINARY-LOOKING WOMAN?

I don't care either way.  I'm alive, happy and just... me.   I honestly don't care how I am perceived by people who don't matter to me.

And yes, if you hate me, you don't matter.

Something never really caused me much issue.

Did not care being i will only be me.

Just a simple housewife and mother.

A butterfly that used to be a caterpillar. I used to be grounded but now i can fly

Live, love and laugh.

I finally like being in this body!
I'm not gonna change now! And besides at this point either of those eventualities is a distinct possibility

No question: Ordinary Looking Woman.

I want a teeny bit of control over when people learn my history.

Just an ordinary Looking woman and housewife and homemaker. I just want to blend in!
Judith

Nothing fancy for me.

I want to just blend into the background noise as an ordinary looking woman.

Whose DEFINITION of passing or beauty? I think I am both beautiful AND passable for me, a Jessica original. I need no one else's opinions as I feel great!

I'm a normal beautiful woman.

End of story really.

Quote from: Cindy on January 22, 2015, 06:58:45 AM
I'm a normal beautiful woman.

End of story really.

No it is not. Your amazing on top of that!! 

At one of the groups I sometimes visit, there is a trans* woman who routinely has people asking her about her transition.  She is frequently told how perfect she looks and how people would wish to turn out like her following transition.  She's quite pretty.  But due to voice, manner, and having had too much FFS, there are some very visible signs of being trans*. 

I used to feel jealous about her. 

I'm quite plain looking, and I'm certainly no beauty.  When I go to that group (or other groups), no one ever says anything to me about my transition.  But I have had people come up to me after the meetings to say they thought I was there to support someone else because they thought I was a cis ally.  And the fact that I am the leader of a major regional trans* org has resulted in people thanking me for "doing exactly what an ally should." 

When I started to realize how much this was happening, I stopped feeling jealous.  She may be the one who looks prettier, but I'm the one who can travel in a space where everyone is assumed to be trans* and still have to out myself to people.  There's nothing there to be jealous of and quite a bit to be happy about.

So I guess that means I'd rather be passable than pretty. 

I'm average looking, but stealth. I do wish I looked more pretty, but I'm comfortable passing. Most of the time I even forget I'm trans. I think I'll also be more beautiful in the future since I've had no surgeries yet.

Ordinary, without a doubt. I strive for and achieve ordinary. I don't even wear makeup yet, just lip gloss and nail polish.

We cant have both??? Very pretty and passable is my goal, Im ambitious

I've met trans women who were striking beauties and were not passable. 

And I think that they were some of the most gorgeous people I've ever laid eyes on.  Passing may make you more safe, but for the wider community and for the next generation there's a lot to be said about things like visibility.

At this point I'm more or less comfortable with how much I pass, and do not aspire to be anything but a beautiful transgender woman - clockable or not.

I'd rather be ordinary looking, because my goal is to blend in not stand out, or just not in that way. Being visibly trans where I live would be hard. Very. Passing means you get to live a life closer to a cis-female's norm if such thing exists, and I wouldn't want people who don't know me to know unless I told them. Also, I've been feminine since I remember, physically as well, so it's made my life presenting as guy harder than it would be otherwise. I just want to fit in and leave that  image behind me if possible. I would rather be a cute pretty little girl than a bombshell who is not passable.

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and sometimes has nothing to do with good looks or glamour.  One of the most outspoken, popular and attractive people I worked with was a woman who spoke up for the truth and herself.  A strong lesbian woman she was and is not a hollywood profile.  She was able to talk with and make friends with just about everyone.  It is her character that shines through and past the superficial and makes people want to get close to her.  She wears what she likes and that is often some flannel that feels good.  I wish I was half the woman she is.

A dozen songs float through my mind; You are so beautiful, Everyone is beautiful in there own way.......

I"ll take a pass on passing

Passing or not, beautiful women do not blend.  Attention is always squarely on a beautiful woman wherever she is.  While society values beauty and youth over all things a woman may have to offer, and that definitely is true, the actual experience of being beautiful is not always pleasant, in how both men and women can treat you.  Life can feel like navigating a minefield.  Also, youth and beauty is so very temporary.  If you add not passing on top of all that trouble, no thank you.

I would choose blending without a doubt.

id love to blend, and intend to devote a lot of energy and resources to that end in the coming months and years, but frankly at the moment i stick out like a sore thumb. i figure i have a choice; hide, or be free. im done hiding. i love getting dressed up as smart as i can, for the confidence it brings. if i have to stick out like a sort thumb, the nail varnish is going to be pretty!

Blending in and ordinary, no question. Luckily, that's what I ended up with. I hate people staring at me, I hate standing out in a crowd, I hate attention... I'd 95% of the time even rather have rather been ordinarily pretty than a bombshell even if I were a cis woman. While I think it would have been fun to *temporarily* be a gorgeous girl, the truth is that I'm a middle-aged woman, and there aren't very many of us who look like that [anymore].