Hey Scotty,
I also wish I could be a professional actor, but a stage one. I sing and do musicals and plays at the community/amateur level, and my first real male role was really amazing. It took a lot of work, especially the voice, I took a couple of years off of singing publicly, and acting. Now that I'm back into it, I've auditioned for a couple of prominent theatre schools and they think I have a really good thing going, a quirky thing that makes me stand out over cis actors, without necessarily outing me as trans. This is a good thing in theatre. I just finished a rehearsal of Sweeney Todd where we were critiqued, and the voice guy thought I had a really stand out voice, BECAUSE it was different (because I'm trans but not in a way that I'm playing a trans guy, my character is cis) I thought I'd never be able to do the young romantic male leads either, but I was assigned Romeo in an acting class and blew it out of the water, so you might think you have more limitations than you really do.
I haven't decided if I want to go to theatre school and study acting professionally, or if I want to go the writer route. My first play is being produced in March and I'm really loving experiencing the other side. Auditions are heartbreaking whether you're the one auditioning or the one on the panel.