Do you meet your own standard of beauty?

I no longer do. Since I got sick. I don't know my own face. I've lost my beauty. It's an issue I'm dealing with. It hurts when you don't live up to your own beauty standards. I haven't looked in a mirror in months for fear I would smash it.
I lost my reflection in a matter of months. Now all I see are the ravages of illness. And pain.
I've lost my face. Maybe forever.

I never knew you were ill, I hope you're better or at least on the up.

I feel that I am attractive enough, sometimes I am very taken with myself.

I haven't reached any standard of beauty yet but I have been lucky enough to pass as a 40 something female.....

I don't think it's a case of beauty and no one is trying to be a beauty queen if they are M to F....we are just trying to reach an acceptable standard of the girl next door or an average housewife....

I'm so also sorry to hear of your illness Nero and hope things may improve soon..

Quote from: Berliegh on October 29, 2007, 10:39:27 AM

I don't think it's a case of beauty and no one is trying to be a beauty queen if they are M to F....we are just trying to reach an acceptable standard of the girl next door or an average housewife....

I entirely agree. Trying to get noticed invites being read as ts.
Louise

Quote from: Nero on October 29, 2007, 10:30:23 AM
I've lost my face. Maybe forever.

Awl Nero, you haven't... not forever. You'll heal. In time. Inside AND out.

And you'll *always* be beautiful/handsome to me

~Kate~

Physical beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Mental beauty is in your thoughts. If you think it, it is.

True beauty is within. It takes 46 muscles to frown and only 4 to flip the bird....so flip off that pain and sickness and let your inner beauty shine. It will start coming out and you will get your face back.

Quote from: Lori on October 29, 2007, 01:12:15 PM
True beauty is within. It takes 46 muscles to frown and only 4 to flip the bird....so flip off that pain and sickness and let your inner beauty shine. It will start coming out and you will get your face back.

love it Lori..

And Im sorry Nero I can feel your pain by the way you write **hugs**

Quote from: Lori on October 29, 2007, 01:12:15 PM
True beauty is within. It takes 46 muscles to frown and only 4 to flip the bird....so flip off that pain and sickness and let your inner beauty shine. It will start coming out and you will get your face back.

people tell me I should exercise.

I can feel that you are suffering Nero, and I am sorry that you are in so much pain.  You are beautiful inside and out, without a doubt.  You are strong, intense and passionate, wow, if that isn't a beautiful person I don't know what is!    Pain takes away your smile, the smile that lights up your face, and then your eyes play mean tricks on you so it is hard to see the same face that you had before.  When that pain subsides or atleast eases, you will be able to look in the mirror and see that beauty once more.        

buttercup 

I'm sorry you're feeling ill Nero.  I had no idea. You are a very nice gentleman and your beauty shines through    Do I meet my standard of beauty?  I dunno.  I think so.  But beauty is always in the eye of the beholder.

Quote from: lisagurl on October 29, 2007, 12:02:44 PM
Physical beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Mental beauty is in your thoughts. If you think it, it is.

Unless the opposite (you're not or you never measure up) has been pounded into your psyche throughout your childhood, and all the adult thinking won't overcome the self-hatred absorbed then. The best you can do is accept you are what you are and leave it at that.

Hmmm...beauty is subjective.  I tend to believe what people tell me so based on those comments, I think it is fair to say that I do.

tink

**hugs nero**

Quote from: Tink on October 29, 2007, 06:39:42 PM
Hmmm...beauty is subjective.  I tend to believe what people tell me...

I wish I could, lol... I was whining about being ugly to a GG (who knows about me) today, and she got MAD at me... seriously MAD.. and told me, "you are what women aspire to be..."

Which is so terribly ironic it's... just insane.

~Kate~

Well, Kate, she is right.  You are NOT ugly.  Everytime I look at some of your pictures, I see a girl who resembles Hillary Swank, and no, I am NOT joking! 
Wake up dream dancer & conquer the world (a comment from ages ago!  )

tink

I feel OK with myself, especially when I take the time to properly care for my face.  My skin glows and that, to me, is a blessing.

As to looks, I know I'm no star.
There are others more pretty by far.
But my face, I don't mind it because I'm behind it.
It's the people in front that I jar!

Nero, there is much good-will toward you in the previous posts, expressions of care about your illness and grief, both of which hurt with a different pain for each of us who experiences them.  Even the deepest pain and illness can abate over time.

Your day is here today if you can seize it.  If not, there is tomorrow.

I'm never 100% satisfied with myself.  That is why I was fitted for a corset.

Wing Walker
Looking for An Hourglass Figure, or Something Like It.

I really messed up my face through my own fault 2 months ago, and I've looked like total crap. Its been truly terrible. Just now, I'm starting to look somewhat OK. But, I'm stilll 2 months from having both sides of my face look the same.

It was so bad that my psychologist said she could barely look at me one month ago, without wincing... That's BAD. Imagine how you would look if someone put a drill to your face, well that's how it looked...

That's one of the reason I was quiet for awhile, I was so depressed about SO STUPID.

Funny, I always knew it would be OK again, but when you look that bad, everyday's a total death of EGO.

Quote from: Keira on October 31, 2007, 02:03:22 AM

I really messed up my face through my own fault 2 months ago, and I've looked like total crap. Its been truly terrible. Just now, I'm starting to look somewhat OK. But, I'm stilll 2 months from having both sides of my face look the same.

It was so bad that my psychologist said she could barely look at me one month ago, without wincing... That's BAD. Imagine how you would look if someone put a drill to your face, well that's how it looked...

That's one of the reason I was quiet for awhile, I was so depressed about SO STUPID.

Funny, I always knew it would be OK again, but when you look that bad, everyday's a total death of EGO.

You always seem to look attractive in your photographs Keira......what happened and how did you think you had messed up your face?

Quote from: Berliegh on November 01, 2007, 12:11:34 PM

Quote from: Keira on October 31, 2007, 02:03:22 AM

I really messed up my face through my own fault 2 months ago, and I've looked like total crap. Its been truly terrible. Just now, I'm starting to look somewhat OK. But, I'm stilll 2 months from having both sides of my face look the same.

It was so bad that my psychologist said she could barely look at me one month ago, without wincing... That's BAD. Imagine how you would look if someone put a drill to your face, well that's how it looked...

That's one of the reason I was quiet for awhile, I was so depressed about SO STUPID.

Funny, I always knew it would be OK again, but when you look that bad, everyday's a total death of EGO.

You always seem to look attractive in your photographs Keira......what happened and how did you think you had messed up your face?

yeah, i'm not seeing it either.