I don't like labels. Ironic really. I go against what society has deemed "healthy" for me for most of my life. I've always been big (since age 9) and I've never been below 14 stone (196 lbs) and I'm 5ft 10. I'm currently around 220lbs I think but Its never been an issue for me. I have no health problems from it at all. I am still able to run 3 miles in around 30 minutes and the only people to ever tell me being "obese" was bad was doctors....even though there was no medical reason for them to tell me this. It is just known and accepted widely that being fat is bad.

And now I'm beginning transition. I find it so so difficult to find information about big guys becoming big girls. Its as if 150lbs is the limit for people to be at before they even consider transitioning. Its really disheartening.

I'm okay with my weight, its something I had to come to terms with a long time ago as I just Can't lose it. And I shouldn't have to lose it so society accepts me better. Thats a ->-bleeped-<-ty reason to lose weight. If it was causing me health issues then fine...but its just not. I'm a very healthy individual physically. I just enjoy food and don't have an issue with weight.

SO my question is....after that rantish beginning

What happens if I do transition on the larger side? Had anybody personally attempted it here? What are the chances of the hormones causing me to lose the excess "man weight"....It'd be great to know...

Anyone who is going to tell me I should lose weight before I transition...I already know, I've read thousands of those arguments and though I've taken them all into consideration its just not helpful to tell me "You're fat. Stop it"

I hope I don't come across as aggressive...I just realise I have a very unpopular point of view and its quite taboo to be okay with weight (I just want it to spread out into shape that dissolves my dysphoria)

Thanks to anyone who takes the time to reply. I really do appreciate it.

Keira x<3x

I guess my question is "If you go the informed consent route, does that include the perceived issue of your weight?"

Surgery is a whole different ball of wax. Many surgeries are postponed while the person loses weight, it isn't a transition issue at all.

Hugs, Devlyn

Hey Keira,

I feel this on so many levels. This has been mainly number 1 on my mind as I've been thinking about it. I'm 5'-9" and currently sitting at 247 lbs. I want to transition but I'm worried about the effects of being larger will do to me or what possible outcomes to be had. I just want to see how it'd work out but I'm afraid if I did than I'd never be able to lose the weight.

Quote from: Confused87 on January 28, 2015, 02:25:45 PM
And I shouldn't have to lose it so society accepts me better. Thats a ->-bleeped-<-ty reason to lose weight.

I wish I could say the same thing. I like you have been heavy my whole life from as long as I can remember. Unfortunately for me I was often bullied about my weight and appearance through-out my whole life. So I really hate all this weight and wish I could lose it all. My current plan is to lose 50 lbs. This would still drop me to about 200. Not great by any means but I could work with that compared to now. I don't mind becoming a chubbier girl, curves are rockin' anyways lol; But I know losing all of the weight will be impossible the further along I get.

We will able to have each other to work with and be able to really see the differences when we are done. I will post a timeline of pictures of both weight lose and development so that other people like us have a better example of what to expect or look forward when doing the same thing.

As for the hrt stuff, From what I've read it'll move weight around the body. So it's probable that you'll develop bigger cheeks, possibly bigger chest, most likely a bigger butt and thighs. Who knows for sure until it's done though.

You got a friend in me,
Marty (Sammi )

My GP has referred me to GIC knowing my weight history and for now I'm not wanting surgery (I'm prepared for this to change once I'm actually on HRT)

Thankyou Sammi!!. I'm glad I'm not alone out there. I know for some people weight is a big issue, and I do understand that....I agree with curves are rockin

I'd rather be a curvy girl than a muscular guy. Thats what it boils down to.

Hi confused,

My BMI is 26.5 ( I have had a BMI of 40.9). I have been on HRT 20 months. Losing weight on HRT is very difficult. I eat healthy and I am maintaining. Due to the ice and snow I curtailed my nightly walks. I work out 1 day a week with a trainer and need to add a second day. I really want to be a BMI of 22. I am currently 214 pounds.

I am reading the book zero belly fat. It is an approach that is reasonable. It discuses foods and times of the day that turn on and off the belly fat genome. I eat a lot of the foods now but I included some "bad foods" that cancel out the effects of the good foods. It is worth a read. Belly fat is really the killer and not the other fats on your body.

I know what it is like to be really heavy and I know your pain, hugs.

The surgeon I will be consulting with will not do procedures on a person with a BMI of 28 or higher.

HRT inner muscular (IM or injected with a needle in a muscle) is safer than pills. Make sure you do not smoke or drink. I was diabetic but have had a hA1C between 5 and 5.2 for 20 months (time on HRT) and a non fasting blood sugar of 98.

I know of one girl that is on HRT and is obese and doing wonderful. 

This is a great topic.  I'm going to meet with my GP and discuss weight loss options.  I've started working out and eating better.  No "diet", but better eating habits.  I'm at 350 and I'd like to get down to 250 before HRT.  I'd love to hear more from big girls like myself.

Well now we got ourselves a big girl club lol we have cookies and cake

Did someone say cookies?   

Carrying around excess weight is not good for the joints - hips, knees and ankles in particular.. But it does have an overall effect too. Given the changes in soft tissues due to hormones, I'd be very careful that I didn't end up needing repeated orthopaedic surgery..

And despite your claims, it will be having some general health effects now that will become more apparent as you age..

I'm 5'7" and 210-220 or so. (I was 5'8" when I began HRT.) I'm not gonna tell you to lose weight, even; I'm fit and healthy as a horse and my doctor concurs, and all my blood tests come back fantastic. Weight is not the be-all and end-all of health.

I did not lose weight on HRT, and in fact gained a bit, which is typical with estrogen. However, it went to all the right places. I'm actually happier with some padding, as a) it gives me curves and b) it rounds out my face in a very feminine way. I'm convinced that my weight is one reason I was able to blend in with cis women so early and easily, in fact, because it's harder for skinny bodies to get curvy fast.

There are no guarantees, but weight should not be a dealbreaker, and might even be an advantage.

(GRS wasn't an issue either; the doctor was happy to perform surgery on me at around this weight. I had a letter from my GP saying I was fit and healthy, but it never even came up.)