Let me start by saying I am just now at 44 coming to accept myself for who I am. It is a constant struggle due to my conservative evangelical upbringing. I was going to wear some pants that are woman's pants just because I look cute in them and I love who I am, at this point I should point out that only my wife and a few select friends know the truth about me. My family and kids do not. I came downstairs to go to work and my teenage daughter asks me why I am wearing mom's pants? I panicked and made up a lie that they were in my pile and I didn't realize and she bought the lie. I felt so bad afterwards one for lying to my daughter and two for betraying myself. I am so tired of living between two worlds I feel like I am slowly losing my mind. My first support group meeting is Tuesday night and I hope and pray to find somewhere that I can feel accepted. Thanks for letting me vent- Kelli.

Transition is hard to walk that line in the early stages.

Just do your best but if you move forward to take the time to talk before hand to your family.

I think shocking them in full fem is just to much but a comfortable fem is the best.

I wish you well and find that spot for your happiness to bloom.

Hugs

Hugs, Kelli.

I guess when we're moving into the phase where we're incorporating gender variant stuff into our presentation, we have to be ready when people have comments. I decided that anyone who asked me compassionately about my fingernails, I would come out to them. Almost no one did, though at that point I was already out to both my kids.

Would "I think I look better in these" work?

Hey Kelli

I have three kids. They do question me from time to time.

"Daddy why are you wearing a dress??? Dresses are for girls!"

I reply:

"Remember, I told you, daddy is a transgender girl, so yes, she wears dresses."

Usually followed with:

"Okay Daddy. I always love you"

And a BIG hug.

But... this could be tough if your kids don't know. I think if you plan on dressing at home you should plan on coming out to them.

But even so, if you just want to alleviate your dysphoria, some styles of women's jeans don't look all that different from men's. You could try those.