I kind of always had this perception on life.  Im cool with taking hrt and waiting for the right time to like let the hair down in a cliche movie montage moment.   I dont feel a rush to have to explain myself and my issues to people.  Yet i will leave evidence that im trans everywhere, and my family is still to nieve to get it.  Oh well less drama this way.

I'm sure a lot of people are on the same page. I leave giant red flags all over the place but I rarely come out and get expicit with people if I don't have to.

It's all at your own pace. You come out when you feel like it.

Personally I don't like to surprise people who are close to me, such as my parents and especially my spouse. So I told them up front. 

Sometimes you're in a position in life where you don't need to come out.  That's awesome.

I will say there is a bit of a liberating feel when you can say "I am transgender."  But maybe that's when you've been hiding it for a long time.

I never really understood that "Urge to Purge" so to speak. Perhaps the big Coming Out is sort of like jumping into the deep end of the pool. Total Commitment? No Going Back?

Me too, I haven't set dates or made plans for a big coming out party. I'll just tell people when and if I need to 

I find it more important to be myself than to tell people who I am.
But I'm not sure I can always have the first never doing the second.