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OMG I sound just like my ex wife

Started by Eveline, January 31, 2015, 08:20:03 AM

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Eveline

I found myself bitching about male privilege recently, and something like this went through my head:

- wow I sound like a feminist
- my ex was a real feminist
- OMG I sound just like her
- yecch!
- wait, no that's good
- WTF where did that come from

Funny what can pop into your brain after a lifetime of pretending to be the wrong gender...
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BunnyBee

You know, I don't understand how anybody can transition in either direction and not become more of a feminist.  But yeah, expect a lot to change about how you think about things :).  It's definitely a sign of the progress you've made.
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Ive

Hello girls,

first of all I would like to give newgrrrl all the support I can give. I'm starting to know how much is difficult all this, and I mean also the stuff that pops up into your mind and how much it can hurt. You are great!

Then, it was funny what BunnyBee wrote, 'cause I think about this stuff all the time. I'm a very curious and... paranoid person :D (hope not tooo much paranoid!). Since I discovered my real gender identity, I felt a big difference between my "male identity" and my real female identity. This brought me to be closed up, fearing my feelings and the fact to hurt the people that surround me. They knew a very sweet me, and I am... not... I mean, I feel I'm not the person I was trying to be, both in gender and character sense. Anyways...

Can I be machist? Against feminism?
Can I be racist?
Can I be against homosexuality?
My answer was: yes. I can.
To my opinion, as humans, we are not coherent. We can be transgender and still be racist, for instance.
It is weird, and from the outside it feels not right. But still, I can.
The point is that... it would last the time to understand it is stupid.
Maybe only racism must be understood, as it depends on the willing of dominating and possessing, and on some cultural imprinting (especially for us "white" people).

By the way, I think we can be feminist like other women or not.
Although I think that this is strongly needed.

Well... maybe this stuff I wrote make no sense XD
Many kisses and hugs,
E.
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katrinaw

Agree with newgrrrl and manila... I think part of our change is also the focus on what we were and the crap we used to say, either as part of the charade or because we wanted to be who we weren't, I find myself hating chauvinistic comments, always have! but now it really grates on me...
But it does not stop there; I find that I am much more touched or fired up by environment, politics, the downtrodden and grumpy old people.. I am not grumpy, sometimes argumentative tho  :-\

Not sure if its just the HRT or a subconscious realisation of life around you...

L Katy
Long term MTF in transition... HRT since ~ 2003...
Journey recommenced Sept 2015  :eusa_clap:... planning FT 2016  :eusa_pray:

Randomly changing 'Katy PIC's'

Live life, embrace life and love life xxx
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Ive

Fully agree!
I think that's who we are. And that's something that is so complex that we can't know about.
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