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Question about appearance and what is right or wrong

Started by MortifiedPenguin, February 05, 2015, 05:15:32 PM

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MortifiedPenguin

Hello.
I am Mortified Penguin. I am kinda new here, and i had a question I wished to ask.
I often worry about myself being probably transgender. I worry that I am making an immoral choice or acting selfishly. I want to help my fellow man  and be a good member of my family, and I admit that the idea of transition worries me, in that I worry that I will not be able to make said commitments if I do transition.
With all that aside though, I did have a question: Could I ever hope to be seen as a girl?
This has caused me much anxiety in the past. I worried that even if I did transition, I would stand out and end up the target of ridicule. I do not hope to be a super model or something: hopefully just someone who looks aesthetically like a run-of-the-mill female.
I will give you these current pictures as a reference:







I also wish to state for reference that I am 5'9" tall, and about 130-ish Lbs.
please give your opinion, and thank you very much. It is god to talk about this, and I hope you may prove insightful.
God Bless,
-Mortified Penguin
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stephaniec

honest opinion , I don't think you have any worries about your face.
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Elis

You look female already, the roundness of your face does it  :)
They/them pronouns preferred.



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Beth Andrea

OMG girl, you are beautiful already!

Your eyes are incredible!

Its not immoral to transition, not at all. It *is* however, immoral to live a lie. And its not selfish of you to want to be true to yourself...in fact, it *IS* selfish for others to demand that YOU live against your nature.

And if they say G-d wouldn't approve, well who are they to speak for G-d? I say let G-d tell me on judgement day what s/he thinks; I will NOT accept what some random egotistical human tell me that I should, or should not, do.

*hugs*
...I think for most of us it is a futile effort to try and put this genie back in the bottle once she has tasted freedom...

--read in a Tessa James post 1/16/2017
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katiej

Penguin, welcome to Susans!  :)

Your fears are absolutely normal, and many (if not most) of us delay transition for years, terrified of being seen as a guy in a dress.  But the fact that you're even considering it shows that it's likely a good option for you.  Have you seen a therapist yet?  If not, that should be the next step for you.

I'd also recommend spending some time on the Before and After thread.  You'll see some amazing transformations, and it always leaves me feeling encouraged and hopeful.
"Before I do anything I ask myself would an idiot do that? And if the answer is yes, I do not do that thing." --Dwight Schrute
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Sophie Lou

xx -Sophie
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April Lee

Girl, you should have no worries about your appearance. You are absolutely beautiful, but the most important thing is to love yourself for who you really are.
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