Defnitely starting to have fantasies!! or rather, enjoy them, not repress them under a deep blanket of shame and denial... i love it!

life 2.0

I liked guys before. Let me tell you, its really weird though, the switch in dating pool from gay guys to straight guys. They are so different from the guys I knew/dated/whatever-ed with.  You think you know about dating and sleeping with men and I suppose I should have anticipated that, but, yeah, it was an 'oh ooooooohhhhhhkaaaay' moment for me.  I have never really hung around with, or talked to normal, heteronormative  guys and I don't really know how to fit in, in that respect. Unexpected oddness.

I've always been attracted to men and looked at them accordingly... 

Actually I do like the idea of a male partner showering me with glittery objects as Noleen mentioned  and.... also nice cosy restaurant dinners... ahhhhhhhhh

I guess I can't say that I have never fantasized, just not been at front of mind especially ATM... other priorities.... but I did sort of think about it, especially after re-reading this thread, I guess in that case, I believe that once I am fully transitioned I think I would definitely like to be with a male partner...

Now I am doing to much thinking again 

L Katy 

Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on February 12, 2015, 12:01:06 PM
I dunno - I have been thinking about this, but... I used to go to gyms, saunas, swimming pools and saw lots of naked men in locker rooms and it was always like "ewwww.... gross". Now...it's totally different (and I am not very happy about that fact cause dating women is easier and safer too). Of course, he would need to be my type, and being a strong woman, I am only attracted to strong men I need to be sure that he can protect me and that he is strong enough to handle me when I get too wild .

Gee Emily you sound like a lot of girls I have met   There is something very intriguing and more about having a man want you but i also agree with Kira that straight guys are harder to understand now. 

I might prefer women, but Jensen Ackles and Hugh Jackman have been causing hot flashes for years.

im surrounded by men at work all the time, they're about as noticeable as paint on a wall to me, i do wish i was attracted to them so that my relationships in the future would be easier to find a partner since im 6 feet tall and want a partner to make me feel small, i just wish i was a straight girl

Dave Navarro.  OMG, Dave Navarro.  OMG, OMG, OMG, Dave Navarro.  Now with serious pecs, nipple rings and and more tats.  Never mind the guyliner...  GAHHHH!!!  That is the sexiest man alive.

Check please!

Who knew that this would be such a popular topic? Especially with Valentine's day coming up, it would be nice to have someone spoil me

Well, there's a girl at work I like, but something about Depp as Captain Jack just does it for me! I think HRT is hinting at some bi leanings. Hooray! Double the size of the dating pool!

When I was in my mid 20s I got the double whammy of realising that I really liked guys and that I was trans all at the same time.  Oh, the guilt was really really bad, as I lived in an even more socially backward country than the rest of them were in the 1990s!

Fast forward to Madrid 2012, newly divorced, and there were a few cute boyfriends, all of whom are still friends, even though I'm now a girl.  The guy I was with in 2013, when I definitely realised I was going to become a woman, is coming to dinner tomorrow - a sort of escape from the silliness of St Valentine.  Nothing will happen, of course, as he's 100% gay, but I still find him exceptionally hot! 

Here's to orientational fluidity! Olé.... 

Quote from: Madison (kiara jamie) on February 13, 2015, 01:49:56 AM
im surrounded by men at work all the time, they're about as noticeable as paint on a wall to me, i do wish i was attracted to them so that my relationships in the future would be easier to find a partner since im 6 feet tall and want a partner to make me feel small, i just wish i was a straight girl

I thought like this too, but I am finding that, there are quite a few advantages I hadn't really thought of being a girl who dates girls. More and more I wonder if my desire to be into boys was because I thought that would make me more normal. In any case, I just don't feel any attraction to men so it is a moot point. Still they aren't icky or anything so if I did find one attractive I would consider pursuing it. Hormones seemed to have increased my desire romantically and sexually with other women and that I have to admit makes me feel like even more of an oddball.

I'm a little weird I guess. I prefer women but am currently dating a man. He has been my best friend for years but its odd in that I guess I don't find his body attractive but his strength and size make me feel small and delicate and I love that. I wasn't repulsed by him at all and enjoyed being close with him. I'm weird.

I have been somewhat confused. I never find myself looking at men but I have one guy that I've been havin a late night rendezous with on occasion. I like the penetration but not so much anything else like kissing and such.
The male body hair is a turn off also.
I like to think about being submissive to a man sometimes though and even watching porn of this nature.

However, Transwomen really excite me and I envision doing everything with them. I am just realizing this and trying to make sense of it all but I believe I am a lesbian at heart. I imagine things could change later as others have said.

I've always been bi-ish in nature. I've slept with men before, even. It just...wasn't exciting. Definitely not my thing. But I damn sure don't mind looking!

Quote from: Tessa James on February 12, 2015, 11:49:50 AM
Given that some of us repressed and/or denied our transgender truth isn't it reasonable that some have been equally good at repressing orientation??  Once we break down the walls and throw off the shame and guilt it would not surprise me that other discoveries can occur.  And, of course, orientation does not mean we must act on every acknowledged attraction or fear we are missing something.  I have been in a few loving and meaningful relationships with men.  What has been consistent is that I have usually imagined and quietly enjoyed myself as a girl.  Now I can be out about it all, what a relief!

I agree.  I am  one who totally repressed my gender to the point I wasn't aware of it.  As I examined life as my appropriate gender I began to feel attracted to men.  This started before I began HRT, so it is me, not something in the girly juice.

It honestly surprises me how many of you prefer women :0
I guess im in the minority who can never see herself with another woman and prefers a guy who showers her with bling and Nutella

Quote from: Fanni on February 15, 2015, 01:42:50 AM
It honestly surprises me how many of you prefer women :0
I guess im in the minority who can never see herself with another woman and prefers a guy who showers her with bling and Nutella

OMG I love Nutella!  Totally agree with you about the rest too. [emoji6]


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Quote from: katrinaw on February 12, 2015, 08:05:20 AM
Welcome Audietta01 glad you joined the forum 
I am just 2 more than you..

I can't say I have had an awakening as such, but I do notice men and have once or twice fantasized....

Boring Eh?

But on the other hand I look at women, mainly for fashion, mannerism's, makeup etc...

Hmmmm maybe It'll get better 

L Katy 

Hi

Nice to hear from you. I have a natural attraction to men and women...androgynous...right now I am not fixed. I love my partner but she wants her guy and no experimenting...so I just have to fix me...so tired of repressing my true self and being depressed because of it. Dysphoia is our self-healing voice...one has to tune in. It is also our intuition. It is there to save us.

I will help any way I can. Love to be there for you. [emoji4]

Audie

Quote from: Fanni on February 15, 2015, 01:42:50 AM
It honestly surprises me how many of you prefer women :0
I guess im in the minority who can never see herself with another woman and prefers a guy who showers her with bling and Nutella

Bling and Nutella is not bad - definitely survivable...  Can I aspire to propose diamonds and dark chocolate???