Things at work have lately been getting much better.....a thing I never imagined.  Yes, there are still 3 people who hate me.  I never liked them to begin with, so no loss there.  Only a very few won't call be Beverly or Bev, but call me by my last name instead.  That way, they get what they want, and so do I, mosly.  It sounds rude to some of the customers, but hey.....at least a last name is gender neutral.  Otherwise, everyone else is content to call me Bev or Beverly, and a fair number of people I didn't know very well, have befriended me.  Nice.  My old used-to-be best friend calls me Bev, in public and private, still cares for me somewhat, but we are not close at all, and never will be again.......and now, after 6 months, I'm okay with it.  She often looks sad, but all she had to do, is reach out....

My GM has stopped looking askance when I walk by, and greets me openly as Beverly.
All the other women that worried so much about me using the ladies room have stopped worrying, and now it's just ordinary, boring news.  There was nothing they could do about it but talk, and apparently, they're all talked out.  In fact, it's now against the law, technically, for me to use the men's room.  What a hoot!  I could get arrested now for using a public men's room.

I haven't been clocked by a customer (that I know of) in a very long time, but toward the end of a long day when my voice is tired, I might get a quisical look, which goes away as soon as I return to voice.

Sounds good, but it took six hard months to arrive at this point!  I'm sorry to say, though, that company sales continue to dwindle to level that won't support my bills and expenses, so I'll have to go elsewhere as soon as I'm able (there's some surgery I need before moving on).  I guess though, when I do move on, I won't have the "Mike" name, and associated male pronouns to deal with.  I know people will always continue to talk, even in a new situation, but unless you are extremely stealth, like a friend of mine, it's just something that comes with the territory.



Bev,
Movin' on (I hope)

Hi, Bev,

Sounds like your situation is at least tenable.  The workplace can be a real snake pit.  Been there, got the bites, kept moving on.

Is stealth really the right word to use to describe someone who has not been harassed over their gender?  Stealth sounds like someone is sneaky or deceptive when all that they might be doing is going about their life and minding their business.  I don't volunteer that I was born in the wrong gender and anyone who asks me such questions gets a chance to see how I handle such idiocy.

May you find work that pays better and has no snakes.

Wing Walker

Sounds like things are going well Bev.

Work can be difficult, I know it took about 6 months before I wasn't viewed as an oddity in thw workplace. The first three months where the worst and It took several people being disciplined (and one even sacked), before the few people who made trouble came to their senses.

It sounds great that your Manager is now accepting, having friends in high places is needed in times of difficulties.

Rebecca

That sounds wonderful, although things are not "perfect" a lot of good things are happening. I'm glad that things are looking better for you.

--natalie