i have thought and thought and thought about it and i can't seem to get an answer! I don't think i want my female body. I could see my self as a guy. I was a tomboy as a child and I always asked my mom what my name would have been if I were a boy. I think about straight intercourse and it seems weird but im not a lesbian either plus gay intercourse seems better, but i have a female body!!!! I thin kif i told my parents they would say it doesnt make sense that i'm thinking about changing to a guy and still liking dudes. I just don't know what to think. I also go to a school that says "->-bleeped-<-got" and "nigga" as if its candy to a child and they dont take it seriously they are also mostly homophobic so i would be bullied. I just don't know.
        -baek

HI baek, Welcome to Susan's.

You are not alone in feeling like you don't know what to do. Usually the best way to help you figure that out is to see a gender therapist. This can be difficult when you are young. If you can get your parents to let you see a counselor or therapist for perhaps depression or something, you may find an ally when it comes to talking to your parents or figuring out what steps to take and when. The fear of being bullied is very real and something that needs to be addressed.

You can be a trans guy and like dudes. That would be a perfectly normal thing. Getting your parents to understand that may take more than just your word. This is another place where a therapist can come in handy. Your school might have group often called GSA or gay straight alliance. You can sometimes find allies there.


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Hi Baek, welcome to Susan's Place.

There are a lot of people who feel the way you do. Sexual orientation (who you're attracted to) and gender identity (What gender you need to be) are two different things in two different parts of the brain. There are a lot of people who need to be male but are still attracted to males.

Some find it helpful to look for a PFLAG or other LGBT support organization in your area. Even one or two allies can make a big difference.

Having a counselor who understands gender issues can be helpful also.

We have a Gay/Straight Alliance at our school. You can count on about 4% of your school being LGBT (though possibly closeted), which means one in every classroom. My point is that anyone starting a GSA at their school will have no shortage of potential members.

Good luck, and please keep posting.

Hi Baek, welcome to Susan's Place! I live near Boston. As you read more and more of the posts here, you'll see things that you relate to, and it should help you sort out your thoughts. I'm glad you found us.  See you around the site!

Hugs, Devlyn