The hair genes come from the maternal side - so look toward the men in her family for an idea of hair trends.
I gained 10 pounds when I first started T, and have now lost it and am continue to lose weight because I am working out (cardio and strength training). I am gaining muscle mass in addition to losing fat, so the actual number on the scale is not always the best indicator. The hormones change the metabolism and build strength. It's up to you how you make it work for you - do nothing and slowly gain fat (generally around the midsection), or workout and build the muscles your non-T-soaked body couldn't really build!