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Is 31 too old to transition

Started by alexbb, February 19, 2015, 08:40:47 PM

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alexbb

no
obviously not, but i remember a while ago seeing someone in a thread remark that there seemed to be a lot of 20something transitioners represented among members, and a lot of 40something, and 50etc ones, but a gap in the 30s. is that a thing? i didnt know but it was interesting and did maybe seem to have some backing.
so i forgot but today went on ->-bleeped-<- and there we are, the 30somethings.
balance is restored!

well, bore-tresting anyway.

April_TO

Never! I started transitioning at 33 :)
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Mariah

30's is definitly not to old. I started at 36 here. As long as your in good health, your never to old to to transition and even you wouldn't be to old.
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Never! I started transitioning at 33 :)
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Amy85

I'm 29 and starting therapy soon. If I end up being diagnosed as transgender and somehow can talk myself into being brave enough to transition I am sure i'll be 30 when I take my first steps... That's the best I can do, sry :P
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Deinewelt

35 here.  I haven't started HRT yet but probably sometime shortly after I turn 36.  For the past 5 months I've been doing laser and gender therapy.  I would have done it much earlier- like 20 or 25.   A big thing that held me back was that I have so much thick facial hair.  I got sick of shaving super close and putting makeup on, time to try to kill the beard with laser.  I used to sit around and wonder when I would transition, but there are a lot of wacky reasons why I didn't.  First, I was a member of a small spiritual group of mostly transgender girls who uniquely believed that we could turn ourselves female purely through meditation.  This had me thinking, I don't need to transition because I'm already going to be a woman.  Yes,  I know it sounds crazy, but sometimes you will believe what you want to believe.  For awhile I thought that I'd just turn out ugly.  I think it will work out fine for me because I have a very feminine size and look very young for my age.  More time went by as I tried denial and to recondition myself.  Eventually I was just crossdressing a lot and my body became a lot more feminine due to my diet and I suddenly decided I desperately wanted an orchi to further feminize  myself.  At that point, I re-educated myself on HRT and just started falling into it with out being able to really stop myself :)

I think if somebody is meant for it, 31 is not too old.
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ImagineKate

I'm 36. Never too late. Almost 3 months HRT. 
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Anna R

Quote from: alexbb on February 19, 2015, 08:40:47 PM
no
obviously not, but i remember a while ago seeing someone in a thread remark that there seemed to be a lot of 20something transitioners represented among members, and a lot of 40something, and 50etc ones, but a gap in the 30s. is that a thing? i didnt know but it was interesting and did maybe seem to have some backing.
so i forgot but today went on ->-bleeped-<- and there we are, the 30somethings.
balance is restored!

well, bore-tresting anyway.

Well, I'm 67 and my therapist can't see any issues so, that probably answers that
Anna :-*
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Katrina

Unfortunately your rib cage and bones have settled by this point. So sure, you can transition. But your results won't be as good if you had started sooner.  I wish I had started back when I was ten years old myself. :(
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Mikaela

Not to seen harsh, but...
Why ask?
I know how you feel. Really, I do. You are going through what we all go through. No one can validate this decision. We can support, we can give opinions and some facts.In the end it all comes from you. I am 45, and started HRT two weeks after my 45th birthday. It had come to a point where I could no longer be a man. I never was. Reality was all that was left for me. I took the plunge, and now I am happy.

You want reassurances? We all do sweetie. There are none to be had. I want so much to make it better for people like us. This step cannot be outsourced. It can only come from within. 20, 30, 40 50, or 60, this is the one thing that no one can help you with. I felt thesame way, I wanted someone to say that it was ok. It is ok. :) No one though, not on this site or any other, not a therapist or friends or family,  can tell us how it will turn out.

This I can say with certainty, if this is the path for you, you will never be able to hide from it. It doesn't go away, we are stuck with it. You can waste another decade like I did, or more. If this is who you are, you can not hide. Believe it.

You are in your thirties, ok, would forties, fifties or sixties be better?

This question is asked so many times, by me and many others, in so many ways. The question really is,'Will it turn out alright?' ...

No one can answer that.  I have been crying since I started a response. I don't know. I deal with the laughter and ridicule every day. Some people accept though, some people support. I stepped off the cliff, I hope that there is some form of normalcy at the bottom. For now, for once, I feel comfortable being me. That is enough.

I took the path less traveled, and that has made all the difference.

Mikaela
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Anna R

Quote from: Mikaela on February 20, 2015, 03:05:23 AM
Not to seen harsh, but...
Why ask?
You want reassurances? We all do sweetie. There are none to be had=
This I can say with certainty, if this is the path for you, you will never be able to hide from it. It doesn't go away, we are stuck with it. You can waste another decade like I did, or more. If this is who you are, you can not hide. Believe it.

Apologies to Mikaela for editing your quote piece
My input is simple, I was originally booked in to gender clinic in Melbourne back in 1987 when I was 40, did not go ahead as circumstances were really not suitable, now, has it gone away or, got better?
No, it does NOT go away and does not get easier to ignore and really just keeps eating at you and pushing it's viewpoint until you have to take notice.
Sorry if this is not really what you want to hear but the truth is there and cannot be hidden from indefinately
Anna :(






Mikaela
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katrinaw

No definately not! In fact before 40 gets better results if you're looking for transition with HRT. Post 40 Effects of HRT are reduced or take longer... Err I can testify to that one  :-\

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Muffinheart

43 - started therapy, hormones, electrolysis
45 - tracheal shave
49 - GRS surgery
50 - happier than ever and feel 35, not 50


So yes, there is no limit to happiness
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Rudy King

FYI: I'm IS.

I started self medicating (DON'T DO THAT!!!  I have like five doctors now, with more to come because of Intersex stuff.) at thirty three, and I'm now 35.  However I really can't say anything on HRT, since I've had atypical results (basically no changes, except my breasts getting a bit bigger, and my voice changing just a tad.

(Please obey ToS, thank you)
Cindy
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Christine167

Started at almost 36. I'm 37 now and things are progressing nicely.
As apparent by the thread there' seems to be a lot more of us 30 something's active on the forum.
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alena

I started when I was 38, I've seen amazing transitions no matter what the age may be.


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alexbb

#15
"Not to seen harsh, but...
Why ask?"

I took the title from the ->-bleeped-<- thread.... which... seems not to be where I put it in the initial post...


I should point out, I clearly dont think its too old or I wouldnt be transitioning. I love it!
People had commented on other threads that there seemed to be a deficit of 30something transitioners, so I was and am heartened to see it isnt the case.



Kellam

It sure is nice to see so many happy 30+ ladies here. I am 36 and just starting. You all look so beautiful and it realy gives me hope.
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Alaia

I started HRT at 38 and I feel awesome and love who I am now ^_^
Of course, I think that getting to the point of loving who I am is the result of a lot of internal work, not just the external changes.



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Alexis79

There is an existing older th read which has over 10 (20?) Pages for us in our 30s. There are many of us, but because of the issues we deal With due to where we are at this stage of life that girls in their 20s don't deal with (families, young children, established and blooming careers)...and girls in their 40s and up are often a bit more...established?? Less concerned over these same issues?? Anyway, my point is...we tend to be a lot more PRIVATE and quiet than the younger and older crowds, so we often appear as if we are not here.

But we are. And we probably forum lurk more than anyone else does. And I believe there are more of us than there are older girls...just...Not as vocal.
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michelle82

32 years old here, and I start HRT in about 3 weeks!

I think you don't hear as much about 30's transitioning, because it is kind of a tricky time to pull it off. A lot of us either have just started our careers, or just started families and have young kids, or both.

Personally i fall into this bucket, I'm early in my career, and have a young child. I wanted to start my transition about 5 years ago, but i wasn't ready, but sure if I was 28 still and didn't have the responsibilities I have now, things would probably be a lot easier.

but its never too old to be happy!!

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HRT - 3/18/15
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