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Is 31 too old to transition

Started by alexbb, February 19, 2015, 08:40:47 PM

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Kellam

I don't have any responsibilities, no fixed adress or much in the way of possesions, I never wanted anything because I couldn't have what I wanted. But I am a decade into a career and I have no college degree. I used to be an artist but I quit because well...didn't feel like I deserved it. Anyway, sorry to Debbie Downer it up over here. I do have options and was on the cusp of starting a buisness. In many ways I am more prepared. I know how to survive and persevere to a much greater degree than I did in my 20's. I've been in new start mode since I quit booze 3 and a half years ago. I guess that was my second early childhood, it felt like it. I learned how to be a person again, how to have confidence in myself. I am glad and certain that I am doing this exactly when I was supposed to.
https://atranswomanstale.wordpress.com This is my blog A Trans Woman's Tale -Chris Jen Kellam-Scott

"You must always be yourself, no matter what the price. It is the highest form of morality."   -Candy Darling



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Sophie Lou

I just started at 37.

I think that once you know, you should start. There is not a number that is too high!
xx -Sophie
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alexbb

Quote from: Kellam on February 20, 2015, 12:37:06 PM
I don't have any responsibilities, no fixed adress or much in the way of possesions, I never wanted anything because I couldn't have what I wanted. But I am a decade into a career and I have no college degree. I used to be an artist but I quit because well...didn't feel like I deserved it. Anyway, sorry to Debbie Downer it up over here. I do have options and was on the cusp of starting a buisness. In many ways I am more prepared. I know how to survive and persevere to a much greater degree than I did in my 20's. I've been in new start mode since I quit booze 3 and a half years ago. I guess that was my second early childhood, it felt like it. I learned how to be a person again, how to have confidence in myself. I am glad and certain that I am doing this exactly when I was supposed to.

yessss! love this attitude.
i think 30s are a great time to do it. no responsibilities, deliberately didnt go out with anyone for a year beforehand, no kids thank god, dont own anything nice except some old books my computer and my car, dont really care about possession particularly, used to drink like a fish, start the day with absinthe and red bull and go from there, but running my biz is more fun than being all drunk and dopy so just keep if for occaisional pissups. quite like driving to nights out so i dont feel compelled to drink, and actually quite like being sober and enjoy myself just as much. more really. enjoying jogging a lot now im not constantly coughing up grey stuff. a decade into my career so on much firmer ground than in my 20s..career prestige seems to have carried over reasonably smoothly; i work as a commercial artist so its all lefty liberals who like trans people and the work hasnt dried up .. and just generally more independent and confident used to getting my own way through relentless practice haha! i wasnt ready before, so very little kicking myself now, i think if id done it idve been all fertive and guilty and hated it. now its, just an amazing feeling of rightness all the time. obvs feel a bit awkward clearly being a ->-bleeped-<-, but i figure just be a chic happy ->-bleeped-<-. no dressing androgynously, just like, yep, i am exactly what i look like, a boygirl who is working on becoming a real girl. practice makes perfect. people find it exquisitely odd for a day or two then just sort of stop noticing. looking forward to hrt and laser a lot! i figure if it takes 3 or 4 or 5 years, its like taking a bachelors degree in being a woman, then a masters. i mean, makeup, body language, voice, hrt, laser, fashion, confidence, guys.. its a lot to learn!

i used to always, always have a cloud over my head. no matter what cool thing happened or who i was with, it was always there. it was awful. everything seemed cursed and flawed. now, plenty of problems, but no great Overproblem amplifying them all. so theyre just little problems not part of an army that had me surrounded.
itll be fine.

slow relentless grinding progress wins the race haha! that kind of thinking wasant really possible in my 20s.
i might make this my family crest


"First forget inspiration. Habit is more dependable. Habit will sustain you whether you're inspired or not. Habit will help you finish and polish your stories. Inspiration won't. Habit is persistence in practice."
Octavia Butler

Kellam

I hear ya on being lucky workplace wise. I'm not too woried. I work in an art museum in a very liberal city in a state with lots of trans rights. I have also embraced the notion of transition. And knowing that for some time you won't necessarily pass. Part of acepting this path was embracing the idea of being fully, my transwoman self. Because I didn't get to be cis so I got into a more elite sisterhood, and that feels pretty special. A woman by any other name...
https://atranswomanstale.wordpress.com This is my blog A Trans Woman's Tale -Chris Jen Kellam-Scott

"You must always be yourself, no matter what the price. It is the highest form of morality."   -Candy Darling



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Jenna Marie

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alexbb

Hey and this is the exact thread I was thinking of but couldnt rememeber! you look smashing!!
awesome. im really glad to be able to reread that thread  too it helped give me inspiration, i thought it might be lost in the mists of time!

"I got into a more elite sisterhood, and that feels pretty special."

Right on!

katrinaw

Ladies I started HRT at forty 7or8 or even 9... now just past the Fifty anything point... HRT works, elated  with the results...so no complaints... Just quoting facts and info given to me at the time, but everyone has different results over a different time period. Love to all....

Katy  :-*
Long term MTF in transition... HRT since ~ 2003...
Journey recommenced Sept 2015  :eusa_clap:... planning FT 2016  :eusa_pray:

Randomly changing 'Katy PIC's'

Live life, embrace life and love life xxx
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lilredneckgirl

Ok,  heres  some  old  school. 
  Years  ago,  the  demographics  of  transitioning  was,  around  45  years  old,  white  middle  class,  median  income,  married  with  kids  in  their  teens, home  owner,  vested  in  a  savings  or  retirement  plan.
that  was  the  'norm'  it  figured,  that  though  aware  of  the  issue,  the  person  had  little  to  no  support  or  information  network.    there was  limited  internet  access,  no  public  acceptance,  so  everyone  was  a  'stand  alone'  for  the  most  part. 
  the  age  factor,  lent  that  finances  were  secured,  homes,  savings  were  there  available  to  leverage,  children  were  of  an  age  that  a  failed  marriage  would  have  minamised  effects. 
the  big  news  on  tg  and  ts  was  the  one  soldier that  went  overseas  as a  male,  and  returned  home  a  female,  the  worlds  first  'front  page  view'  of  a  completed  transition. 
  all  this  set  up,  that  in  the  40's  a  'man',  could  start  transition,  have  the  financial  resources,  be  assured  his  children  were  of  age  to  be  cared  for,  and  perhaps  understand.  additionaly,  that  age  in  life,  still  gave  enough  time  to  'realise  the  dream'    and  live  life  after  transition. 
 
fast  forward  20  years  from  the  mid 1980's  to  the  mid  2000's .

internet  is  in  everones  home.  the  age  of  information  is  in  full  swing.  chat  rooms,  forums,  yahoo  groups,  and nearly  every  medium  has  an  entry  point  into  open  discussion  and  support.  the  younger  generations  embrace  this new  technoligy,  and  discover  through  new  " Google  searches"  that  they  are  not  alone.    Sites  like  susans.org,  urna,  tg  city,  spring  to  live  bring  a  new  internet  community  to  the  tg  scene,  providing  additional  information  and  support.    the Benjamin  Standards  are  opened  to  the  medical  community, and  medacine  has  come  out  of  the  dark  ages.  Jerry  Springer,  Oprah,  Dr  Phil  bring " transgender folk"  into  everyones  home.  feature  movies,  " TransAmerica"  debutes,  we  as  a  community  are  out  of  the  closet.  Doctors  are educated,  surgens  see  oppertunity,  cosmetic  surgery,  now  acceptd  in  main  stream  America  branches  out  into  transition  FFS,  Breast  aug,  etc,  for  transgenders.

The  internet  and  the  media  ride  the  wave,  and   break  down  the  doors  that  were  closed  or  unheard  of  a  few  decades  before.   
  health insurance  companies  that  never  offered  any coverage  for  transitioning,  begin  to  now offer,  in  whole  or  part,  benafits  that  cover  counsling,  hormones  and  gender  reassignment  surgeries. 
countries  like  thailand  see  the  American  clients,  and  promote  their  services,  often  without  the  'red  tape  "requirements,  offering travel  and  surgical  'packages'  at  50%  of  the  cost  elsewhere.   combined with  insurance,  srs/grs  now  becomes  an  affordable  and  accepted  option  for  younger  people.

gender  dysphoria,  modern  day,  seems  to  be  a  growing  movment  to  let  a  child  define  themselves.    the  gender  steriotypes  of  old  are  long  gone.    now,  transition  can  begin  in  grade  school.   horones  are  offered  before  puberty  sets  in  with  their  extreme  hormonal  effects  to  the body .    surgical  options  follow  shortly  there  after. 

  be  it  good,  or  bad,    things  change.   the average ages  still  vary  greatly,  but  as  noted,  gender  dysphoria  often  has  a  delayed  onset,  often  not showing  until  later  in  life.
  where  srs  was  an  option  only  for  perhaps  1 in  100,000  back  25  years  ago,  with  price  tags  of  $25000  or  more  in  a  totaly  self  pay  system,    it  has  opened  up  now,  to  be  available  to  nearly  everyone  that  has  the  true  desire  and  nature  to  persue  it,  with  insurance  and  mandated  health  insurance  behind  them. 
  where  a  time  existed,  where  there  were  a  half  dozen  surgens,  now  the  numbers  seem  limitless.     

these  few  paragraphs  are  by  no  means  scientific  or  medical  facts.  they  represent  my  opinion  and  observations  over  many years  ,  from  my  onset,  through  transition,  and  now,  coasting  down  the  home  stretch,  looking  around  at  the  information  and acceptance  the new  girls  have,  compared  to  the  way  it  was  back  when. 
  im  not  saying  it  is  utopia  acheived,  but  for  sure,  we  as  a  community  have  come  a  long  way.   
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April Lee

As I look back on things, I can see that I sort of went through my identity issues when I was young, but then decided that I was just a heterosexual male with some really strange ideas. I then built an entire life around the notion of trying to be as masculine as possible. For a very long time, there was a considerable inertia behind all that. And that kept me locked into my male life for decades. Only when I faced a personal crisis elsewhere in my life, did I pause long enough to consider who I really was, and what I wanted from life.
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