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I'm in an abusive relationship, I think.

Started by natalie19, March 04, 2015, 03:21:54 PM

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Jayne

Sorry Mr driver but I've got a question......

Are we there yet?
Are we there yet?
Are we there yet?
Are we there yet
Are we there yet?
Are we there yet?
Are we there yet?

:D  :D
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CalmRage

sorry for posting here, but i just gotta say something:

what kind of freak puts Cialis in his trans-girlfriend's food or drink? scratch that, who does that to ANYONE? And especially with someone suffering from dysphoria, elevating the symptoms.  i just have no words for this. i hope he never sees you again Natalie. I don't know you, but i'm sure you deserve much better.
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natalie19

I got home last night very late and I just crashed. I'm staying with a friend, I'll be here till I can find some work and get a place of my own. He's tried to find out where I am. He's sent me emails but I've been ignoring them. The bus ride was arduous to say the least. My back is killing me from all those hours sitting upright in those seats. Sat next to some nice people and one woman who figures me for trans, she had way too many questions, but they were tasteful at least.  My parents know I'm back home but they've been divorced for a number of years and they have their own families and such so I didn't want to impose on them and they haven't seen me with the big implants and such.

I was only able to pack a few days worth of clothing so I'm hitting the goodwill today to find some tops that fit better and Monday my friend is taking me to a bra fitting so hopefully I can get more support than these flimsy sports bras are giving me. Riding alone in a bus for so long makes you think. I feel so stupid for being controlled so much that he changed my body in a way I didn't want. My GD isn't usually bad but since these erections it gets way worse. Luckily I wore a long skirt and was able to hide them while I was on the bus. I'd they continue I'll have to go see a doctor and find out why it's happening. Cialis  doesn't change hormone levels as far as I know, but who knows what else he did to me.

Everyone has been so helpful, so if you have questions about, getting implants,  or transitioning,  just message me if anyone is too shy to ask on a forum. It's the least I can do.

Loves,
Nat
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Athena

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adrian

Natalie, I'm glad you made it home safely!

Hugs
Adrian
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CalmRage

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Beth Andrea

There are warnings on Viagra (and probably cialis) that if an erection doesn't go away in 4 hours, to see a doctor. That would be an ER visit, btw. It's called "priapism" if I remember correctly.

Otherwise, good news, happy to hear you're safe!
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serenityfaith

Quote from: natalie19 on March 07, 2015, 10:03:10 AM
I got home last night very late and I just crashed. I'm staying with a friend, I'll be here till I can find some work and get a place of my own. He's tried to find out where I am. He's sent me emails but I've been ignoring them. The bus ride was arduous to say the least. My back is killing me from all those hours sitting upright in those seats. Sat next to some nice people and one woman who figures me for trans, she had way too many questions, but they were tasteful at least.  My parents know I'm back home but they've been divorced for a number of years and they have their own families and such so I didn't want to impose on them and they haven't seen me with the big implants and such.

I was only able to pack a few days worth of clothing so I'm hitting the goodwill today to find some tops that fit better and Monday my friend is taking me to a bra fitting so hopefully I can get more support than these flimsy sports bras are giving me. Riding alone in a bus for so long makes you think. I feel so stupid for being controlled so much that he changed my body in a way I didn't want. My GD isn't usually bad but since these erections it gets way worse. Luckily I wore a long skirt and was able to hide them while I was on the bus. I'd they continue I'll have to go see a doctor and find out why it's happening. Cialis  doesn't change hormone levels as far as I know, but who knows what else he did to me.

Everyone has been so helpful, so if you have questions about, getting implants,  or transitioning,  just message me if anyone is too shy to ask on a forum. It's the least I can do.

Loves,
Nat

Good for you!!!! Now you need to take a day or two for Natalie and RELAXX :) and life is crazy ain't it?! I'm only about three years older than you, so I'm learning all those crazy lessons too, we learn a lot about ourselves and all the crazy people in the world along the way lol and we get a hell of a lot stronger! :) I'm proud of you girl! Im happy you're gonna stick around the forums I wanna keep up with how you are :) :P This is like the perfect ending to a bad story! ;D
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serenityfaith

Quote from: Jayne on March 07, 2015, 05:15:20 AM
Sorry Mr driver but I've got a question......

Are we there yet?
Are we there yet?
Are we there yet?
Are we there yet
Are we there yet?
Are we there yet?
Are we there yet?

:D  :D

LOL
"The problem with people who have no vices is that generally you can be pretty sure they're going to have some pretty annoying virtues." ― Elizabeth Taylor <3



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SpiffyTiffy

I would run away and very quickly at that.

I was physically and sexually abused by a past boyfriend and I would say flee while you are still able to do so.


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ImagineKate

Yay Natalie!

you made the right move.

Like Jessica I am an ex LEO myself. I saw all sorts of cases about young girls getting caught up with empty promises, drugs and the like.

I would go to a doctor and get checked out ASAP. Maybe even see if you can file charges against this creep. Then again you want him out your life so it's up to you.
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Rachel

Hi Natalie,

Remember, do not answer any messages from him. If you can, block his e-mail. You may want to get a new phone and e-mail address.
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Brasileira

Hello Natalie, I'm very sorry  to hear all you going, yeas ago I was also in very abusive relationship and believe me it was a very very bad relationship  and for a really long time  but today I thank God for my husband I guess I couldn't find someone so special. well I know the moment is not adequate but I would like to ask you about your silicon implants.  I'm almost 1 and half post op  and they still hurt, how long after your op had you still pain? and after some time do the breast get more flexible?  my skin is already very soft but the implants are still a little static.  Wish you all good. xoxo
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natalie19

Quote from: Brasileira on March 07, 2015, 07:02:49 PM
Hello Natalie, I'm very sorry  to hear all you going, yeas ago I was also in very abusive relationship and believe me it was a very very bad relationship  and for a really long time  but today I thank God for my husband I guess I couldn't find someone so special. well I know the moment is not adequate but I would like to ask you about your silicon implants.  I'm almost 1 and half post op  and they still hurt, how long after your op had you still pain? and after some time do the breast get more flexible?  my skin is already very soft but the implants are still a little static.  Wish you all good. xoxo

Not a problem at all. I'm 6 months or so post op.  I still have pain, mostly on the underside of my breasts, mostly if I go braless for a time.  There could also be a bit of scar tissue forming.  My surgeon gave me some massages I do everyday to keep the implant pockets from forming that scar tissue. I do them in the morning just after my shower. It's also important to find the right bra.  The bra cup should support the implant as much as it does the whole breast. I'm still fighting with finding a good bra. I'm currently wearing a 34g but I need a different style. My skin is still quite tight but I have very large implants. I was told overtime that the skin will get more flexible.  I lotion with vitamin e to prevent stretch marks. You can search YouTube for the exercises there are many videos just stop if you feel pain or discomfort.  How big did you go if you don't mind me asking?
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natalie19

I've thought about getting the authorities involved but then I'd have to see him again. Then I'd have to travel all the way to Oregon to talk to a detective and the investigation stuff. Besides, if he did go to jail, he might like it too much. My number has been changed, email accounts deleted even. No one from there knows my new information.  My friend has been kind and I have enough savings to support myself for a few months. I might have to space out my HRT if I can't get medication refills. But I'll be looking for a job this week. I can waitress if I need too.
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cindy16

Hi Natalie, I am sorry to hear all that you have gone through, but also happy that you are finally safe. I think you should be proud of yourself for the courage you have shown so far, and for thinking calmly about what you want to do now and whether you want to involve the police etc. Do not let your past experience make you feel stupid or anything. In fact, it only makes you wiser and better prepared to face the world and build a better future for yourself.

Take care
Cindy
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Brasileira

Hi again Natalie,  forgive my ignorance I don't know how to quote a text and continue from it  :)   I have implants of 300 ml left side and 325 ml right side, and in the moment I still don't know what size I have cruz I'm still wearing the post operative bra and sport bra their size are C/D cup, they look I bit bigger from what I want because I forgot to count the size I had before the implants I had a small B cup and the doctor told me I should end up with a big Ccup but they look very natural and not exaggerated cause they are implants with anatomic form  he told me when I get a round implant that would probably look artificial and like a porno actress.
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jujubes1986

Quote from: natalie19 on March 04, 2015, 03:21:54 PM
Hello all I'm Natalie from Texas.  I'm new to the forum but I've been lurking for years and the advice is truly the best.

I am 19 now and I'm going to school for computer science. I started transitioning at 17, and lucky to have understanding parents. I am passing completely now and am currently in a relationship for a year. So here is my concerns. Please excuse me if my post gets graphic, if that kind of thing upsets you please stop reading and if you're reading this for some kind of thrill, please also stop reading.

I met my boy friend a year ago. He accepts me for me, he's never laid a hand on me. But some things bother me about our intimate relationship. He likes me to be on top in that reverse cowgirl thing, which is fun except that my bits tend to flop around quite a bit, I'm quite endowed so it's painful, I've asked him to stop and I always end up in that position because he sweet talks me and I don't want to ruin the moment. Another thing that recently disturbed me is that he talks me I to taking cialis or viagra even though I refuse to penetrate him I end up getting random erections. There has also been times where I think he put some in a drink of mine because I get that same feeling of random erections. We were at the movies and he was kissing my neck etc and again it happened. Am I so naive to think he truly loves me?  I don't know what to do. If I break up with him I think he'll be really mad.

Thanks,
Nat

I've been taking hormones and tbkocker for 10 years now... And when my bf kiss me I get an erection... I think it's because I know it's him and I have feelings for him... I think it's all in the mind...





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