I am 15,and hope I can reverse puberty somehow!!!Im starting to get more body hair and just keeps getting more upsetting,but I can't come out EVER if I want to keep anyone

Body hair diminishes when testosterone is cut off. Facial hair doesn't. It's there until you burn it off. Changes to bone structure are permanent as well.

Darn.I haven't gotten much facial hair at all yet tho and I'm almost 16

Quote from: Makenzie on March 14, 2015, 07:59:22 PM
I am 15,and hope I can reverse puberty somehow!!!Im starting to get more body hair and just keeps getting more upsetting,but I can't come out EVER if I want to keep anyone

Am I understanding this correctly?  You want to wait until you're older, move away from everyone and then transition? Is that the plan?

I too get upset about this occasionally, try and stay strong

If possible,yes.Is that a problem?

Hi Makenzie

You may want to consider comming out to your parent they could surprise you. Im 21 now, I came out to my parents when I was 13. I thought they would be mad maybe kick me out and hate me. When I told them they werent surprised and were very supportive. You can also try talking to someone at school first. If you want to pause puberty you may be able to go on hormone blockers, not sure if they will work this late, but you will probably need your parents permission because youre only 15. Even if youre parents dont quite understand ive known parents who are willing to become educated and talking to other parents of trans kids helps too. Good luck, stay strong, never give up and know you are never alone

It is most definitely not reversible, but you can push it off with testosterone blocking.  A lot of trans people start later and don't have many issues other than voice and hair removal, but the cheapest easiest path is to start earlier.

If you start young, the key is figuring out how to go through with it at that age without letting it get in the way of your childhood, schooling, and ultimately long term life goals.

Voice is going to be Hell for me,as I am a classically trained vocalist that has a very low voice,at least singing lol

Quote from: Makenzie on March 14, 2015, 08:19:55 PM
If possible,yes.Is that a problem?

No, I just wanted to be clear if that's what you had in mind. You still run the risk of losing the same people, no?

Also, just look around the forums, the twenty and thirty something year old transitioners are gorgeous. Starting young is good, but certainly not a prerequisite. You really should think about coming out, though. We see transgender kids in elementary schools now. If they can do it, you can do it!

Hugs, Devlyn

Yes,but my fear is losing my family at my age and being homeless.

Your parents may not understand, but would they seriously kick you out? Most parents love their children even if they are messed up. I can't imagine that they would kick you out. You might experience a lot of discomfort for a while but believe me, that will happen whenever you decide to come out to them. If there is ANY way to block the testosterone, please explain it to them. It is reversible. It should not hurt you to do that. However, developing all the other male traits may be a problem for life if you transition. Try to help them understand that. We live in a time when so many young people are coming forward and expressing their concerns to their parents. Good for them! Don't wait. Work with them. Please, I'm begging you to try. It is worth it, believe me.

Cindi

I mentioned the subject of transgender people to my dad a couple weeks ago and his reaction was
"They can go to Hell if they choose,there freaks and will never be real women or men"

I wouldn't be at all surprised if he changed his tune on finding out you were ttransgender. But only you know the family dynamic and safety comes first. If you're sure you don't want to tell them, your next best option is wait until you're eighteen, move out and immediately get a job and start HRT. You'll still be fine starting at that age.

Hugs, Devlyn

I'd like to piggyback on what Devlyn said. It may just be that your father needs to be educated. Does he know these facts?
* We don't choose to be trans. We were born that way?
* Gender dysphoria is serious. It destroys people who ignore it.
* It doesn't go away on its own.
* The only successful treatment is to transition and live as your true self.

I hear a lot of stories of parents that were initially very judgmental, but once they understand, they realize how much we need to transition. I wonder if it would be worth a try, and going back into the closet if it doesn't work.

Only you know for sure, and you may get quite a different answer from some of the young people here. But those of us who have been paying thousands of dollars for hours of painful treatment for something that puberty blockers could easily have prevented will encourage you to try to find a way in that direction.

Hugs Makenzie. Give yourself credit for facing a very hard situation with strength and poise.

Makenzie, I think that, before you come out to your parents, test the waters with other family members, and even friends. What you want in the worst-case scenario, is to have someone supportive. My parents are supportive, and that's awesome, but I came out to my friends first, just in case my parents kicked me out. I'm not in the same boat, just a similar one. I honestly don't know when I can start hormones and blockers, I've asked, and most people think 16 is the minimum age in Ireland, I've heard someone started at 15 in Belfast, so that's reassuring, but I still have a year to wait, minimum. I urge you, and most of the people here would agree, blockers are the way to go at the moment.
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More on testing the waters:

By the sounds of it, your Dad is a conservative. If there's anyone in your family who's progressive, then they would be your bett bet, rather than just taking shots in the dark, and if you have any openly gay friends, try them and their parents.

I really, really, really hope that the coming out process goes well, and I wish you the best of luck.
-Winter