Hi Folks,

So I'm going to a transgender event in Chicago on April 4th. Here's what I'm a little worried about. I plan on going to this event as Sammi (My female self). The thing that really worries me is how to approach it. Seeing as kind of pissed off my girl friends, idk how much help I'm going to get from them. So this is likely to be me figuring this all on my own.

For starters I really don't know how dress for it. It's a celebration event so it doesn't seem like you need to be dressed to the nines. I have a cute mini skirt and a cute maroon top that I could wear. I was thinking more along the lines of wearing some jeans w/ cute sweater and maybe a cute scarf. I'm strapped with cash so buying something new is really out of the question for this. I also plan on doing my makeup so hopefully I can get it to look nice for this. I have a wig also so maybe I can find something for that too. Any suggestions just let me know.

Now that once I get that part down I'm a little worried/ scared of what it might be like. I'm assuming it'll mostly be dominated with mtf or crossdressers which should make it a little easier to be around. I just don't what to expect from something like this. Anyone who's been to an event like this before have any suggestions or advice? I don't want to be a sore thumb standing in the corner minding my own business. I looking to have fun and find out who I really am. If this event goes successfully than I know I'm making the right choice with my life.

Thank you,
Marty (Sammi)

I think you will be fine!  Most places with events have people who are new like you, and those who have been there for a while!  I think you will quickly find yourself at home, and be amazed at how comfortable you are.

What are you the most comfortable in when it comes to clothes?  How long will the event be? 

Thanks I'm sure I'll have fun. The event is either 4 or 5 hrs.

I asked because for me, going to an event, I wouldn't wear heels for that long because I would pass out!  I also try and think about if it will be indoors or out, if I will be cold, or hot.  Then dress accordingly.  Try not to be too scared, I understand though that it is the unknown!

Well if I heals  . No I was planning on just my gym shoes. Yea the temp is something I've been wondering about. I'm pretty tough so I could handle wearing a sweater indoors for a time frame if I had to. The reason I'm a little skeptical in wearing what I have now is that they aren't really the best type of clothing for someone my age. They look cute but idk if I could wear them out ya know. they're a little much for someone my age and make me look a little 'skimpy'. So that's why I was thinking of going with just basic late winter/ fall apparel. kind of fits the mood to me.

Yea I'm scared of everything so I'll do alright I guess

One thing I LOVE to wear, and have TONS of are Maxi Dresses.  They look good on my frame, are age appropriate, and COMFY but stylish!

Yea I would love to own a few dresses myself. The just flow so perfectly. I love it

Hi Sammi,

At the last transgender conference I ran there were lots of 'first timers'. Everyone is nice a friendly and you will be in a safe place.

The problem may be after you leave as it can be a let down to go from one place where you are totally accepted and normal to back home where you may not be out and accepted. So treat your feelings carefully.

And Enjoy!!

However,   you decide to dress to go to the convention, just dress in a way that you are comfortable with and can maintain a reasonable presentation.   Maybe take several outfits that you really like and you are comfortable in and dress as the occasion calls for.

It's counter-intuitive, but sometimes I find that dressing more androgynously and less femmy, leads people to read me more often as "female."

Take what you want from that.

Most important thing to wear: A smile. 

Enjoy yourself. It isn't a test. You can't fail (unless you fail to have a good time).

I understand the nerves, Sammi. Go and enjoy yourself and relax.

Ok here's what I managed to put together here at home for this event. What do you guys think. Will this work fine? I thought it was fine enough for the event.

ps this is my sister's mirror. Idk why she has such a stupid mirror but it's hard to see your self it in.

Hey, who is the pretty girl in the pic

You look great, have fun.

Quote from: Cynthia Michelle on March 20, 2015, 06:51:16 PM
Hey, who is the pretty girl in the pic

You look great, have fun.

Aww shucks    Thank you

That's great.  I'm so proud!  Chicago in April is tough.  Could be 70. Could be 20. On the same day. [emoji6]

What is the event?  I live here and I didn't even know about it.

YAY!  You look great! Have fun hon

Thanks folks! Chigirl I posted about it In the support page area. It's on April 4th center on halsted. $10 at door or $5 online. Event is 5pm to 9 or so. You should go if your free.

Sammi, you look awesome!  You've got nothing to worry about -- there will be plenty of other "first-timers."  Just remember to breathe.   

I hope you have a great time!

Well if the people there are as friendly as you folks I know I'll be in good hands lol. I'm really excited for it.