I'm FTM and I've been transitioning about about a year and half.  Earlier on I was questioning a lot but I've settled into it and become more comfortable with myself and don't often wonder whether or not I'm on the right track.  In addition, even though I'd always been attracted to women, I dated men because I felt like I should.  I guess it went along with who I was trying to be.  Since I've been transitioning I've been dating women.

I had this dream last night where I was a female, and was getting attention from a guy.  Rather than being horrified, in the dream I was happy and flirtatious.  When I woke up I was very upset and confused.  What does it mean?  Has this happened to anyone else?

I think it is common across the spectrum - I guess it's just one of those things about being trans and in our dreams things come out weird. Dreams are usually our subconscious trying to work stuff out for us and often the apparent meaning is shrouded in metaphor and god knows what else. It can be upsetting I know. Last night I dreamed I was a woman [tick] in a women's change room [tick] and I was shaving my beard [wtf???]... I think a lot of it has to do with anxieties and subliminal triggers and what not.

Like Ms. Grace said, it happens.  I get things kind of like that too.  I'm pretty sure I've had dreams where I was a "girl". Heck, I've had dreams where I was pregnant (not recently) and that was terrifying. Dreams are just our mind's way of sorting out the things of the day.  It's usually bizarre and strange and often metaphorical.  The dream could even just mean that you've been feeling more comfortable with your feminine side or something *shrugs*.  I wouldn't worry about it too much.   

Quote from: zukhlo on March 30, 2015, 07:05:05 PM
I'm FTM and I've been transitioning about about a year and half.  Earlier on I was questioning a lot but I've settled into it and become more comfortable with myself and don't often wonder whether or not I'm on the right track.  In addition, even though I'd always been attracted to women, I dated men because I felt like I should.  I guess it went along with who I was trying to be.  Since I've been transitioning I've been dating women.

I had this dream last night where I was a female, and was getting attention from a guy.  Rather than being horrified, in the dream I was happy and flirtatious.  When I woke up I was very upset and confused.  What does it mean?  Has this happened to anyone else?

Dreaming of a woman could symbolize the own emotional side.
Getting attention from a guy could mean balance of own emotional and rational/active side... or emotional side being valued from outside...
dreams often use pictures as symbols...

Thanks everybody! I've been getting misgendered a lot recently by people who I thought understood what I'm going through. I think I have a lot of anxiety over the fact that they still think of me as female. I think maybe the dream has something to do with that...I appreciate the advice!

I wouldn't mistake you in your picture.

Remember that even though mentally you have been a guy all your life, you have spent less time in transition than you have in a fully female body. I don't know if that has something to do with it.

Every now and then I'll have a dream that "with" a guy and I have girl parts, and usually I wake up really upset because I think I shouldn't be having dreams like that, My guess is that everyone has some sort of garbage left over from before they transitioned and they find their way into our dreams. Also, dreams are cryptic and they don't always mean what they appear to. It can be hard to decifer dreams. Have you ever had a dream that made complete sense while you were dreaming it only to awaken and not understand any of it or find that you were speaking some weird language in it? There is much to learn about our brains and neurology. I'd bet there are cis guys who dream they are girls from time to time. Not that they would admit it.

sam1234

I have as well. I think it's "normal" given living life as female, especially someone not transitioning in their teens or something. It doesn't matter that your brain is male, your experiences have been as female.


--Jay

Yeah...dreams can be a little trippy...  Have you heard the song 'Spider Web' by Joan Osborne?