My voice when speaking sounds low but really feminine, singing is another story altogether though

I can sing contralto well, and while it doesn't sound too good it does at least sound feminine. But if I try to go up to soprano, it just sounds like I'm singing falsetto... it's kind of sad, I love singing and it sounds great if I sing in my male voice, but there's no point in singing for me if it isn't in my real voice.
Well, I do wish you luck

. I don't know if the regular voice exercises apply - if your speaking voice isn't feminine yet, you'll most likely want to work on that first anyway - but I'm sure practice makes perfect.
If you're aiming for androgynous rather than female, I guess one way would to be actually able to make it sound female first, then aim for something like a young, pre-T boy voice. (I personally know some butch lesbians that have both this kind of voice and look. Otherwise, though, I wouldn't know how to reach that kind of goal.)