Just wondering how many people do you think know that your transgender and does that affect you in any way. I know for sure my doctors and therapist know. My family knows now probably because I spilled the beans to my niece. The neighborhood I live in is a small collage town and over the past 17 months my clothes and especially my physical appearance has change dramatically to the point I'm getting ma'am quite a bit., but I'm guessing that for those that see me everyday they're having deep suspicions , but don't know for sure. I find it pretty empowering that I feel people recognize I'm probably trans. Yesterday I went to a grocery store and this young mother with her children called me a woman. I find it's getting quite exciting because a life long dream is coming true.

I'm easily read, so I'm guessing pretty much everyone. Add to that that I still live in the same tiny town where everyone knows everyone...


Sometimes, it bothers me, but I try to ignore it so long as I'm treated ok.

People I know closely do and my GP and doctors obviously do because they have access to my medical record.  That doesn't bother me particularly. As far as strangers are concerned, if I keep my mouth shut no one knows, if I speak maybe 50% of the time i get read as I'm still working on the voice but it's getting better.

Approximately 0%, out and proud so there's no guesswork involved with me.

Well i would say probably everyone in my hometown know since I threw a big post on facebook and well I have a big family and news travels fast there. I have no issues when i go there though so thats always awesome.

But where i'm currently living, I'd say only the people close to me know as well as doctors. I've been on a few dates and they are quite shocked when I tell them

I'm out to my school (~1500 people) and my church (~300 people). I've also given public presentations.

Yes, it bothers me, but activism is really important to me, so it's a price I'm willing to pay.

Who knows? I assume all know.. And it bothers me not one tiny bit.

I'm not fully out yet. Maybe 10 people at work know. I would say about 15-20 guess.

Outside of that very few and I mean both M and F presentation. The pharmacist knows.

I would venture to guess that other than a few people in passing that I cross pathes with, all of people in my life know that I am transgender, I am very proud of the changes in my life and very open about what I have and am going through to acheive those changes.
I feel that by far the majority of people I interact with regularly respect that I have chose to fix my life and many of my problems,
It gives me great joy to be seen as female regardless of my past,

Everyone that I know is aware that I am trans.  And people I meet that don't clock me or know, figure it out the moment I open my mouth.
It does not bother me that people know.  It bothers me that my voice initiates misgendering, but not so much that it outs me as a transwoman.

I mostly still look like a dude. I'm in guy mode and pre hrt. That said I've told my friends, family and immediate coworkers. The rest of the hospital (that I work in) seems to be guessing it though thanks to my corset acting like an underwire and my movements changing. The bra strap may give it away too...

Not a clue how many would guess upon meeting me or knowing me. It might have bothered me once upon a time if such a thing occurred, but nowadays I could not give one flip if they guessed, surmised and became enlightened.

Only people that I am aware know about that part of me would be my husband, immediate family and a doctor or two. And maybe a few friends growing up and have since lost track.

Based on your photo, I would think you are female and no thought of medical issues twixt your legs or otherwise would come to mind.  If you are tall, I would expect a deeper sexy voice. Makes me happy to know you are out and about enjoying Life. Good for you girlfriend!

Quote from: Jerri on April 09, 2015, 10:53:12 AM
I would venture to guess that other than a few people in passing that I cross pathes with, all of people in my life know that I am transgender, I am very proud of the changes in my life and very open about what I have and am going through to acheive those changes.
I feel that by far the majority of people I interact with regularly respect that I have chose to fix my life and many of my problems,
It gives me great joy to be seen as female regardless of my past,

it does feel so good, that feeling keeps me moving forward.

Quote from: herekitten on April 09, 2015, 11:33:04 AM
Not a clue how many would guess upon meeting me or knowing me. It might have bothered me once upon a time if such a thing occurred, but nowadays I could not give one flip if they guessed, surmised and became enlightened.

Only people that I am aware know about that part of me would be my husband, immediate family and a doctor or two. And maybe a few friends growing up and have since lost track.

Based on your photo, I would think you are female and no thought of medical issues twixt your legs or otherwise would come to mind.  If you are tall, I would expect a deeper sexy voice. Makes me happy to know you are out and about enjoying Life. Good for you girlfriend!

I'm 5'6 and working on my voice I'm good with one word conversations

My approach is to guess that everyone knows and I like it this way.  I have been very social and public and continue to be out and active.  I may bother myself about someone misgendering me or snarky behavior but that is a work in progress as i would rather just not be bugged by another person's perceptions.  They are welcome to have their cake and eat it too

I would assume that everyone at my doctor's office knows. Doctor, lab technicians, medical assistants, pharmacist, pharmacy techs, front desk people, etc. No less than a dozen there. I've also used the free legal services there, so add another half dozen to just that one location.

My entire family knows. But I don't see them regularly, so their knowing doesn't affect my day to day at all. All of my friends know. It only bothers me when they slip up with pronouns in public. But I don't go out that much, so not a big deal.

My boss and 3 coworkers know. There are still 2 that don't, which is mildly amusing to me. I'm hoping to have a new job lined up after surgery now that all my documents are changed and I'm legally male, so I'd still have 4 people that know, but I wouldn't see them at all.

That's just the nature of transitioning in place. Luckily I've done it relatively quickly compared to many people, so if/when I get that elusive out of town job offer, very few (if any) people in my day to day life will know and that's the way I'd like it to be.

I pass 100% (including voice) and have ever since going full time.  I was only part time for a week.  The only people that know are the ones I want to know, ones that have seen my ID, or are part of the one mistake I made early in transition.  So the list is basically:
my parents
several of my closest friends
doctors and their staff
landlady
a bunch of other transgender people, mostly online (including Susans  )
some random people who have seen my ID like the people who work at the place I get my blood tests done
and the people who work at a grocery store where I made my one mistake

The mistake I made was that I used to go to a grocery store and have a special type of sandwich made.  Since I ordered it on a regular basis when I was playing male, I messed  up and ordered the same thing when I went there as myself.  The lady who worked at the counter originally had no idea I was me, but figured it out immediately when I ordered the sandwich.  She was really excited and happy for me so I didn't think there was any problem.  Unfortunately, she told other people and word spread throughout the store, and one guy who had been flirting with me a lot found out and got somewhat hostile.  I've since smoothed things over, but learned my lesson.

So essentially, the only people that know and are prevalent in my life are the ones that I really want to know.  I'm happy with that.

Everyone I've ever met, I assume, and that's a LOT of people.  Over a thousand easily.  Being "Facebook out" will do that.

I used to be scared sh*tless about ever coming out because I thought that if I ever did, everyone everywhere would know and due to fear of the unknown, I kept it hidden for ages.  I certainly didn't want to ever go there and make things even worse for myself.  (No thanks to exploitative shows like Donahue, Springer and COPS.)  Hell, I never so much as wore women's clothes until I was 43.

When it came to the point where GD was literally killing me, I rapidly got a new perspective on things.  I started going out in girl mode, saw that it was likely going to be OK in the end and I finally stopped caring about what anyone else might think about it, even family.

Since LA is a big place, I see new faces every day and nobody looks at me twice anymore.  Strangers I meet generally have no freaking clue that I'm trans, and that's OK.  Once I meet someone new and see that they might become part of my life though, my status is certainly no secret. 

I realize now that most people don't (knowingly) know a trans person, and I feel that it is my duty to educate them as an ambassador from trans*land, dispel toxic myths and put a real face on this issue.   See, we're just regular people who got dealt a less-than-perfect hand in life, but hey, look what I did with it- I went all-in and won the pot with a just a queen and a joker.

When life gave me limes instead of lemons, I just made me some tasty margaritas. -Jill F

I think everyone knows I am trans after they have known me for more than a few hours. I live in los angeles though so I just assume people are being nice to me although I have been to middle Missouri before and everyone was nice to me there too even outside of college city. I personally think I pretty much only pass at first glance but it become really obvious that I am trans once you get to know me. All my friends are nice though and it is kind of this unspoken thing that never comes up. I don't actively tell people I am trans and only mention my bisexuality when people ask me about past experiences or something. Maybe I am being paranoid though about people clocking me though.

All of them, and no.