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I would love to post photos on here, but I'm terrified of possible consequences!

Started by eggy_nog, April 11, 2015, 06:47:03 AM

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eggy_nog

I would really love to post in all the photo/picture threads, but I get the feeling it's too easy for anyone to come on and find them :/

I guess I'm 'out' but only really to people who know me from before, or to significant people. Anyone I meet now I don't tell, and I'd like to think they can't clock me. Plus I'm worried about my future career as well!  :o






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Mariah

Is there always a chance someone could see the photos yes. They could also see them where you have to uplink them before posting here. If you don't feel comfortable posting them here, then please don't because your comfort and safety is important. I don't mind posting some photos here, but I'm willing to take that risk while others are not and don't. So don't feel bad because your not the only one who feels that way or has those concerns. Good luck and hugs
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iKate

I am careful about posting pictures. I don't put any of my kids for example. I also control the external source so if I need to delete them I can.
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Ms Grace

As with anything posted to the internet, any photos you post here can be found and/or seen. Donors and subscribers have a private area that provides a bit more privacy but it's still the internet.
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TransSasha

I always worry about people finding my picture on sites like this and such but then i ask myself, "If people find my picture on here, they're probably here for the same reasons I am" lol so they can't really use it against me, or for like blackmail or whatever
Love <3

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marsh monster

Usually, its fairly safe especially if you limit the time you have it up. Also, make sure its not geo tagged and don't use your real name when posting it. The nice thing about posting pics here and having to use a hosting site is that you can remove the pic from the hosting site and it will disappear from here within a few hours usually.

But then if you take a look at how many guests there are at any given time, I'm sure you can count on at least a few of them copying your pic if it suits their fancy, especially those of the more attractive variety.

I post pics periodically, but then I remove them later and so far, I've been able to keep any name/picture association off of any search engines I've checked.
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barbie

Probably I am the #1 in posting photos here. Everyday I upload photos in Facebook.
Yes. At first, I worried about it, too. But, I have gradually revealed everything regarding me, especially through Facebook.
Now, I have virtually nothing remained to hide from the public.

A problem is that my little daughter also sees my Facebook page everyday, and does not like her appearance in my photos. As I respect her privacy and right as a citizen, nowadays I restrain posting her photos.

Honesty eventually freed me. I especially thanks Facebook for it.

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sonson

Quote from: TransSasha on April 11, 2015, 09:50:58 AM
I always worry about people finding my picture on sites like this and such but then i ask myself, "If people find my picture on here, they're probably here for the same reasons I am" lol so they can't really use it against me, or for like blackmail or whatever
thats how I feel. its so highly unlikely that anyone I know will find my pictures unless they see them on this site. and if they are browsing this site, then chances are they are trans too, in which case I WANT them to find me! I could use an ally  :P
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TransSasha

Quote from: sonson on April 11, 2015, 10:56:16 AM
thats how I feel. its so highly unlikely that anyone I know will find my pictures unless they see them on this site. and if they are browsing this site, then chances are they are trans too, in which case I WANT them to find me! I could use an ally  :P

haha me too!
Love <3

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cindy16

Quote from: sonson on April 11, 2015, 10:56:16 AM
Quote from: TransSasha on April 11, 2015, 09:50:58 AM
I always worry about people finding my picture on sites like this and such but then i ask myself, "If people find my picture on here, they're probably here for the same reasons I am" lol so they can't really use it against me, or for like blackmail or whatever
thats how I feel. its so highly unlikely that anyone I know will find my pictures unless they see them on this site. and if they are browsing this site, then chances are they are trans too, in which case I WANT them to find me! I could use an ally  :P

I feel this way too, but then I think it's not just us trans* people but anyone who is a bit curious who could land up here.
For example, I am growing out my hair, getting laser on my face, and trying to start a group for LGBT+ rights at my workplace, but presenting as an ally and in general as a cis-hetero male. If someone around me doubts what I am up to and goes snooping online, it is only a matter of getting some keywords right for Susan's to show up among the top results. Already, I worry that if someone who knows me reads ALL my posts, they could guess it's me, but I also want to remain involved here because I like it.
But photos? No way unless I am totally out to everyone around me.
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LizMarie

I don't consider myself "stealth" so have nothing to hide. I don't advertise my history but if asked politely, I will explain it. Normally, people just assume I am another older woman so I have nothing to lose by posting a picture.

But if your circumstances are different, if you are "woodworked" or largely "stealth" and worry about that, then don't post pictures! :) There's no requirement to do that here. This is a safe place so use it as you are comfortable using it. Don't be forced into something you do not wish to be forced into.

*hugs* :)
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xponentialshift

Definitely, if you aren't sure that you are comfortable posting pictures, don't post them. I have always assumed that if anyone really wants to find anything I have ever put online, then they can. There is no way to completely hide something once it's been online.

That said; before transition I think I only ever put 3 pictures of myself online. Once I begin to transition however, I began to feel more comfortable with myself and put more and more photos online. When I went full time and started hanging out in my local queer community and dating some amazing trans women, I started to realize that for me and my circumstances, I didn't care if people saw my photos (whether just portraits, transition related, or even 18+ stuff) All of my friends and partners know me, and would just like me more the more photos they see, and I'm lucky to have an accepting workplace and family. Anyone who doesn't approve of the photos I take and the things I do isn't someone I intend to interact with.

Anyway, that's a long winded way of saying: only post photos if and when you are comfortable with the fact that anyone could potentially see them.

-Molly
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Susan

Just a reminder...

Quote from: Susan on July 27, 2006, 07:45:44 PM6. You should not give out personal information which may lead to your being identified, or contacted in person, by email or other means. If you chose to do so, then you also accept all accompanying risks. Aliases and the use of alternate identities, social media accounts, and email addresses are strongly encouraged.

That includes posting photos.
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TransSasha

Well I found out how to update my avatar so I guess there goes my privacy  8)
Love <3

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CB

Quote from: Ms Grace on April 11, 2015, 07:24:01 AM
Donors and subscribers have a private area that provides a bit more privacy but it's still the internet.

I didn't realise that!
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sam1234

Quote from: eggy_nog on April 11, 2015, 06:47:03 AM
I would really love to post in all the photo/picture threads, but I get the feeling it's too easy for anyone to come on and find them :/

I guess I'm 'out' but only really to people who know me from before, or to significant people. Anyone I meet now I don't tell, and I'd like to think they can't clock me. Plus I'm worried about my future career as well!  :o

There is nothing wrong with not posting your picture. If you chose to keep your status private, then its not a bad decision. Depending on how many people you come into contact with at your job or school, there is always the chance of being recognized. On the other hand, I think everyone here respects other's privacy and their wish to remain anonymous. If you decide at a later date you want to post your picture, its not like its a time sensitive decision.

Go with what you feel comfortable with and don't feel bad about your decision.

sam1234
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charlotte15

Well it's simple for me - I can fired for no reason (right to work state my *ss). FFS will be expansive and if I don't have the money, I will be miserable for a few more years. So no face pictures because I just can't risk losing my job.
AA, Laser and Electrolysis since 2011
HRT since 2014
FFS done in 2015
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