Were you able to reach orgasm after surgery? How long did it take? If you're willing to share, what kinds of issues did you have, and how did you get past them?

It took about 8 months, I think. (I had had an orgasm while dreaming at 3 weeks post-op and a few times since then, so the frustrating thing was that I knew it was possible/the electricity worked!) The main issue was figuring out how the new bits worked - it'd feel nice and all, but not really go anywhere. Eventually I tried the Hitachi magic wand vibrator, and that did get me over the edge once, but was often too much stimulation and I just went numb. It was really annoying how what I needed kept changing, and I think part of what I had to adjust to was exactly that; in the old days it was basically one sort of stimulation, just faster and harder as I got closer. With the new parts I'd like gentle one minute and rougher the next, touch this precise spot this time but next time it'd be like poking my nose, and so on. And since I didn't really know what to do with the feedback (did that jolt mean it was good, or too much, or...?) it took me a while and some experience to calibrate the sensations enough to figure out what would work. Oh, and it had to be partly mental now, no way to get over the top purely by rubbing away down there.

Oddly enough, the biggest problem I had once I got past all that was the similarity of the motion sometimes to what I'd done before - it's gotten easier as the years passed, but at first if it reminded me too much the dysphoria would trigger and I'd be done for the day.

Quote from: Jenna Marie on April 03, 2015, 11:33:59 PM
It took about 8 months, I think. (I had had an orgasm while dreaming at 3 weeks post-op and a few times since then, so the frustrating thing was that I knew it was possible/the electricity worked!) The main issue was figuring out how the new bits worked - it'd feel nice and all, but not really go anywhere. Eventually I tried the Hitachi magic wand vibrator, and that did get me over the edge once, but was often too much stimulation and I just went numb. It was really annoying how what I needed kept changing, and I think part of what I had to adjust to was exactly that; in the old days it was basically one sort of stimulation, just faster and harder as I got closer. With the new parts I'd like gentle one minute and rougher the next, touch this precise spot this time but next time it'd be like poking my nose, and so on. And since I didn't really know what to do with the feedback (did that jolt mean it was good, or too much, or...?) it took me a while and some experience to calibrate the sensations enough to figure out what would work. Oh, and it had to be partly mental now, no way to get over the top purely by rubbing away down there.

Oddly enough, the biggest problem I had once I got past all that was the similarity of the motion sometimes to what I'd done before - it's gotten easier as the years passed, but at first if it reminded me too much the dysphoria would trigger and I'd be done for the day.

An image for you:

I had my first orgasm while stimulating my vagina six months after surgery. I am now 9 months post op and it gets even better. There is still much to learn about my new. I am pretty sure I can get a orgasm whilst beeing penetrated and I am sure this orgasm will be unbelievable deep and intensive. But this will take a few more months.
When aroused it feels sooooo great beeing penetrated!

I love my vagina :-)

Lara

To my mind this conversation is a bit odd in that it is making no reference to the most important aspect which is undoubtedly the mind.

The brain is the biggest sex organ we have. I can orgasm without stimulation if I put my mind to it and think the right thoughts, and deliberately move my focussed awareness around my Vj in the right way. Of course stimulation helps, but its not the determinant. You have to know which thoughts are "dirty" enough to take you there, and then be prepared to go to them in your head. There are certain imagined mental scenarios that will take me there in a few short moments. If I rule them out of my head you could stimulate me all day - aint nothing going to happen...

Of course back in my day, dilating by gaslight, back before wireless was invented (well almost anyway) they used to tell us not to have sex for three months, but I figured that had more to do with infection. So my first orgasm happened about ten days post op when I was dilating.

I was about 3 months.
At first that area was anything but sexual, to me it looked a mess and while I was so happy to finally have one, it wasn't sexual in that state (if you know what I mean).

I started to watch what I call "pro for women" you know, had a bit of a story, while I was dilating and soon enough I was feeling better about it, within a few days dilating was feeling like play time and not homework, and one night I started to try new things I kept at it and wow....

Seeing as someone else has mentioned it. The mind. I can have an orgasm within 5 minutes without having anything directly touched. Rhythmically contracting the pelvic muscles appears enough to stimulate good sensation. I'm not even quite sure what is being stimulated, but it feels good. All this would be senseless without the mind to fuel and amplify it in a kind of feedback loop.

It wasn't this easy in the first few months post-op. In fact, it was impossible. I think it was around 60 days post-op that my frustrations were starting to build into a panic attack because of the lack of orgasmic abilities. I started dedicating over 90 minutes every couple of days to the task of achieving one, without too much success in the beginning. I had bought a vibrator and started using that, but how to use it? Inserting it fully, running it at max, whilst watching porn, got me to my first orgasm at day 71 post-op. Pre-op, I had never watched porn before, as I had never needed it. Putting sensations into over-drive taught me how I could get there again. Over the months it got easier and easier.

A year later I discovered that I could even have an orgasm without any visual or direct physical stimulation, but by simply using my mind to conjure imagery and using pelvic contractions. I was very pleasantly surprised. It's something that I couldn't have imagined happening pre-op. Did my brain rewire itself over the course of a year to accept a different set of stimulants and sensations?

After my experience, my humble opinion now is that inorgasmia is all in the mind, literally, and can be overcome with a little dedicated time and effort (and porn).

Beth Andrea : I literally laughed out loud! SO true, though.

Rejennyrated and Nicolette : I did say "Oh, and it had to be partly mental now, no way to get over the top purely by rubbing away down there."

(I admit, I can also orgasm from nipple stimulation and fantasy alone...  but I assumed this question was intended to refer to climaxing at least mostly from genital stimulation and that counting the breasts-only times would be "cheating.")

I get no pleasure from dilating whatsoever, for those who do I don't see it, it's just a smooth dildo basically.

Clitoral orgasms are pretty nice, they just take forever (15+ minutes at least).

Prostate orgasms are alright, not nessecarily a head rush, more of a quick physical thing.

My two cents

Quote from: Blush on April 04, 2015, 10:19:52 AM
I get no pleasure from dilating whatsoever, for those who do I don't see it, it's just a smooth dildo basically.

I only get discomfort.

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Clitoral orgasms are pretty nice, they just take forever (15+ minutes at least).

I don't believe I've had one, yet.

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Prostate orgasms are alright, not nessecarily a head rush, more of a quick physical thing.

I think this is the type I experience. But not sure.

I said > 1 year, but honestly it's because I was afraid to touch anything down there. I wanted to heal properly so I lived with some frustration. It took me a while to figure out how it works, but it works perfectly. I suppose if I could turn back time it would be interesting to see what would happen if I tried it say 6 months after surgery. Hope that helps!

The first time I felt something down there was around 5 months post-op.. I testing out my new vibrator.. but my first orgasm came about 6 months post-op. It was penetrative sex with a guy. The female orgasm feel 1000000 times better than a mans.. as a woman you feel it all over your body and lasts long. My vagina felt all tingly afterwards. I fell asleep that night a very satisfied woman.

Quote from: noleen111 on April 05, 2015, 05:06:55 AM
The female orgasm feel 1000000 times better than a mans.. as a woman you feel it all over your body and lasts long. My vagina felt all tingly afterwards. I fell asleep that night a very satisfied woman.

Hmm...depends on what type. Someone mentioned the "prostate orgasm" which can be stronger and full bodied. But there is much variation in prostate ones and if you have been taking hormones that this option may diminish or lose entirely as estrogen shrinks the prostate.

But in a least some men I would not be at all surprised if it was stronger than a girls (by their experience).   Men are also sensitive beings, you need to know where to apply the right pressure. But of course most men would object to being penetrated (especially by a women) and deny themselves this experience, its sad really.

My first orgasm was the second time I had sex. That was 6 weeks post-op. I never understood what all the fuss was about (over sex) until then. Afterwards, I understood LOL!

At the 4 month mark, if I remember correctly...but only through masturbation. Had none through sex (yet?).

My libido is simply zero. I can be aroused, but that involves looking at pictures, films, thinking of someone, toys, lube and a lot of concentration. All of those combined. I am never aroused by accident. But I don't really mind. I don't miss it?

Getting to an orgasm takes a long time, and cannot be forced. The only way I can reach one is through using a pillow or a some cloth that I can ride/rub against. 20 - 30 minutes of hard work. LOL.  I tried with fingers, but no success... it needs to be soft, and indirect, so a pillow works very well.

Anyway, It's nice but nothing special. I can live without it. The idea of getting penetrated and overpowered by a man is far more sexy and appealing to me. Sex is more than just an orgasm, it's the whole package. Orgasm would be great, but it's not what sex should be for me. I am satisfied without it, because the sensation of wanting one isn't there anymore.

Oh wow, I feel like I'm far more impatient than everyone else. 

I had my first orgasm on Day 18 post-op. But I admit that my surgery went really, really well and so I was feeling a little more adventurous. I reached orgasm by mostly stimulating the pubic mound above the vagina, which wasn't as affected by surgery.

Quote from: suzifrommd on April 03, 2015, 07:56:56 PM
Were you able to reach orgasm after surgery? How long did it take? If you're willing to share, what kinds of issues did you have, and how did you get past them?

I had SRS with Dr. Chet on 12/16/14 (4 months now) and I still haven't been able to orgasm yet. I've never been with a girl so I really don't even know if I'm doing it right or not.  I'm almost to the point where I think that I might try to find a lesbian or a FTM to show me what I need to do in order to have an orgasm. I'm so frustrated at this point!!
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^Try a pillow or towel.  and ride it. Google the technique if not sure.

It was the only way I could get at it. Fingers, hands all were too rough. It seems many (if not all cis-girls) learn it this way. I just asked cis-females and they told me so. Didn't know that either, but we already missed that boat, still working through all those memo's. LOL.

However do not rely on it, because when done too much it can become the only way. The pillow/towel technique is just to kickstart it. It is also best to try to get it going soon after SRS, because those nerves need to stay intact. My doc told me to "use it" right away after a few weeks. Well, that became 4 months, but it worked.

Quote from: BWgirl_1114 on April 15, 2015, 01:01:02 PM
I had SRS with Dr. Chet on 12/16/14 (4 months now) and I still haven't been able to orgasm yet. I've never been with a girl so I really don't even know if I'm doing it right or not.  I'm almost to the point where I think that I might try to find a lesbian or a FTM to show me what I need to do in order to have an orgasm. I'm so frustrated at this point!!
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You might have a look here for a few thoughts that might help:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,185786.msg1653885.html#msg1653885

I'd say try to relax... and take your time...

hugs

5 days, it wasn't deliberate, it just happened while I was c*nt stretching.