Hello!

I recently came out to a couple of my closest friends that I was transgender, and it's been a fantastic decision so far as I have never felt as happy in my teenage life. It's like Ive been an incomplete person for the past 18 years, and I've finally found out what makes me, "me".

Despite this, I've been beginning to become a little bit uneasy about transitioning. Don't get me wrong, I very much do identify and believe that I am a woman, but I've been worrying a lot about how I'll feel in the future about my decision to transition, and that I might be making a mistake.

I'm not really sure what's causing me to feel this way, and it's beginning to drive me crazy. Maybe it's the fact that I have to pose as a male for my family (who I'm not out to, as of yet), or maybe it's because it's such a radical change in my life, I just dunno. Did any of you gals feel the same way when you first came out and began considering transitioning?

I just feel like I really need some support and assurance right now ;(

I think that Transitioning is a mental thing as much as it is a physical thing. Figuring out if transitioning is right for you or not may the first step in your 'transition' if it makes any sense. Transitioning means different things to different people. You'll want to consider the pros and cons of transitioning/not transitioning too.

Hey

Welcome to Susan's Great to have you here - looking forward to seeing you around the forum.

Personally, I started the process of transition before coming out. In fact I told most people only a few days before going full time. That gave me plenty of wriggle room, I didn't have to worry if I changed my mind, didn't have to worry about people trying to make me change my mind, people being nosey, etc. Anyway, the decision to transition is yours alone. Telling a couple of friends does not lock you into any course of action. It's not uncommon to have doubts in the early stages. I'd suggest you speak to a counsellor or therapist who is able to help you thrash through the various issues.

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Grace

  I agree with Ms Grace. A good gender therapist can help you answer your questions.