Hi Megan, it's hard because people don't understand and we have guilt and betrayal to the ones we love to deal with.

Children and Grandkids are a tough one, how do you tell a child that you were born in the wrong body, depending on age they wouldn't understand, then of course they then have to decide whether you're Mom 2 or still Daddy....? Then of course with grandkids one of the inlaws may not want you around the Grandkids anymore, in case you poison them with your GID...
The point I was making about delaying (like me) is that the family gets bigger and bigger the longer you leave it, then it gets harder and harder. I did sort of think maybe I just divorce and then Transition fully, come back to them all as Katrina... That, I thought, will make it worse...

Haa triggers come and go, managed it well over the years, but that's changing....

I've been on and off forums for many years, but we need to relate to experiences and sometimes it keeps us grounded.

L Katy 

Quote from: Kova V on April 14, 2015, 11:51:06 PM
I only gets harder the longer you wait...

My only sugestion would be to think about what would happen if your wife left you in 5 years or 10 years and you knew it today. Would you still choose to not transition for her to keep your relationship for 5 or 10 more years? ...

I can turn this question around a bit, as I've heard it MANY times from my wife. "If I knew before we got serious you were going to do this I would never have married you. You told me you were just a CD and transitioning was not for you". We've been together one way or another for well over 30 years now.

Like WarlockMaker, even before we got married we had an agreement. Sort of an open relationship agreement, with ground rules. The need to exercise it never arose... yet. In the future, it may very well be the reality. She likes men and what they have. And.... HRT does things you may not expect. Like how you think about guys. Something that drastically changed for me and I even test drove it in the past!