I haven't begun the physical transitioning process yet, but I've been tagged as male (and in one case accused of misrepresenting myself as female, the whole G.I.R.L (Guy In Real Life) uproar) by my online writings on three separate occasions. And the other day someone (who happens to be lesbian, btw) was looking at a picture of me when I was about 3 (she didn't know who it was a pic of) and said "What a cute little boy!" I have many feels about this, mostly good. Also feels about my feels, mostly confused. So my question to you is, how did you feel the first time someone regarded you as male?

The first time someone saw me as a male was "by accident". It was way before I decided to sit down and think about my gender identity. I was wearing a binder (for some reason I thought binding was perfectly normal for a cis afab person?) and I think someone, in a store or something, called me "young man". From the first time I loved it. I didn't correct them, it was like a game to me. Not like a crossdresser because I wasn't even trying, I really felt like myself and I wanted to look as masculine as posible and see if I could get away with it... those little moments helped me figure out I was trans, I figured out most cis people wouldn't want to be "misgendered" and I never felt misgendered.
People would often correct themselves in front of me not sure of what words to use, and that was nice. When they asked I wanted to say I was a boy but I never did because I was afraid they would look at me for longer and notice something, but still, it feels amazing. Little kids specially, often think I'm a boy. I went to a friends house and her niece was SO CONVINCED I was a young man (at this moment I wasn't out and I couldn't tell my friend to just go with it).
I specially remember one time I was running at a park, I wasn't wearing a binder and I was wearing shorts (I have chubby legs). I sat down in a bench to do some stretches and an old man sat next to me and we started to talk. When I told him I had to keep going he said "okay, see 'ya later, boy!"... all that time talking to him he tought I was a guy? I felt amazing!!!

It happened a few years ago around the holidays. It was pretty early in the morning and I was exhausted. I didn't intend on leaving the house, but I was bribed with coffee on the way back from where we were heading. We had our trunk loaded with big bags of hats that we got on clearance for the mall and figured the soup kitchen could give them out, so why not. Three older gentlemen were outside, and were thrilled to see what we had to show. One took them all inside while my mom was having a conversation with the other two. I was nodding off some, but snapped to when one of them asked my mom if I was her son. For a split second, I was so happy. It was mind boggling for me because I rarely ever seem to give a decent male vibe to others and this was before I cut all of my hair off (all I had on was a trapper hat, skinny jeans and a band shirt). Granted, my mom broke that moment by saying something else, but it was good for the short time I had that moment.

In a huge public scene, one of the moments that come to mind was having an anniversary dinner with my partner at a restaurant. I didn't initially hear it in passing, but he did and told me a little bit after the fact, but a waiter called me sir after accidentally bumping into our table when he was moving along. I blame a lot of me not noticing on being hard of hearing, since he (my partner) tells me it happens a lot when we're out.

Yep, thats how I found out about my trans. The first time it was gasps of shock and then the buzz came. I dont know what it is but that buzz is better than berroca. You gleam for the entire day!

No doubt it is a real rush the first time someone calls you a guy. The first time I was really picked out, I was in a store and started to go into the girl's restroom (this was about three years before T), and the bag guy yelled out, "hey man, you're going into the wrong bathroom!". That was awesome.

Some of the physical things like chubby legs or even small breasts can seem like a bigger give away to us than they really are. I'm light skinned, and before T, when I wore shorts, I was really conscious of the fact that I didn't have any hair on my thighs. It turned out that the only person who really noticed was me.

sam1234

I always dressed in "boy clothes" as a kid, and I remember kids trying to be mean and saying things like "are you a boy or a girl?" And it upset me, but only because I wanted to say boy but felt I couldn't. But I feel like a real first time for me (and actually how I got my name) was when I went to the bank (in "girl mode" at the time) and the teller said "is your name pronounced Elijah?" And getting nervous I corrected her to my birthname and she didn't think anything of it and said "sorry, I bet people mess that up all the time. Well was there anything else I could help you with today Sir?" Definitely one of the best feelings I've had in a really long time

First time someone addressed me with male pronouns... I don't remember, people do that a lot however for me I have this sense of fear they will find out, it makes me nervous. And when they do, sometimes I'm constrained to speak up for fear my voice will give me away or be around them in general.

I do recall 3-4 years ago when I was proud people accidentally addressed me as male.
I need the transition soon nether less, it makes me uncomfortable to be constantly afraid and judged as someone who's biologically female presenting them self as male.

Quote from: BMTH on April 19, 2015, 10:55:39 PM
I always dressed in "boy clothes" as a kid, and I remember kids trying to be mean and saying things like "are you a boy or a girl?" And it upset me, but only because I wanted to say boy but felt I couldn't. But I feel like a real first time for me (and actually how I got my name) was when I went to the bank (in "girl mode" at the time) and the teller said "is your name pronounced Elijah?" And getting nervous I corrected her to my birthname and she didn't think anything of it and said "sorry, I bet people mess that up all the time. Well was there anything else I could help you with today Sir?" Definitely one of the best feelings I've had in a really long time

I feel the same, people ask me that question frequently. "Are you a boy or a girl?" It drives me insane. Pre-Testosterone, I cannot answer male.

Quote from: Sea on April 19, 2015, 11:13:12 PM
First time someone addressed me with male pronouns... I don't remember, people do that a lot however for me I have this sense of fear they will find out, it makes me nervous. And when they do, sometimes I'm constrained to speak up for fear my voice will give me away or be around them in general.

I do recall 3-4 years ago when I was proud people accidentally addressed me as male.
I need the transition soon nether less, it makes me uncomfortable to be constantly afraid and judged as someone who's biologically female presenting them self as male.

I feel the same, people ask me that question frequently. "Are you a boy or a girl?" It drives me insane. Preoperative, I cannot answer male.

I can't say I'm read as male a lot (I wish I was) but whenever I get that question, "are you a boy or a girl?" I feel the same as you. I want to say I'm a boy but I'm afraid something will give me away...

Hm, well there were a few times prior to transition but I don't count them as there was uncertainty in many of them.

The first time it happened and they didn't seem to question it, it was a drunk woman who groped my hands on the train and then a dude at the same time who was asking about what I did for work.

Quote from: awkward-shark on April 20, 2015, 12:38:28 AM
I can't say I'm read as male a lot (I wish I was) but whenever I get that question, "are you a boy or a girl?" I feel the same as you. I want to say I'm a boy but I'm afraid something will give me away...

Yes, there was never once I would say I am male but it was at the tip of my tongue so it is a question that leads to humiliation, personally.
Stay strong, buddy.

Quote from: sam1234 on April 19, 2015, 07:17:52 PM
No doubt it is a real rush the first time someone calls you a guy. The first time I was really picked out, I was in a store and started to go into the girl's restroom (this was about three years before T), and the bag guy yelled out, "hey man, you're going into the wrong bathroom!". That was awesome.

Some of the physical things like chubby legs or even small breasts can seem like a bigger give away to us than they really are. I'm light skinned, and before T, when I wore shorts, I was really conscious of the fact that I didn't have any hair on my thighs. It turned out that the only person who really noticed was me.

sam1234

Sounds great, friend. I am happy for you. What did you do afterward?
The bathroom is still an adventurous place to me. 2-3 times people would tell me that "the male's bathroom is over there". Sometimes I have to tell them that "I am female" or leave... It's painful because I am scared to enter the male's bathroom, what if they pick me out, is using a cubicle is funny? Things like that. I am honestly not on Testosterone or anything... I did enter it sometimes, that was when there is no one or few people around. Chills me to the spine, really.

The first time for me that I can recall was when I was about 10 or so, and we were at a store getting clothes. My mom and I went over to the changing rooms lady to get that number card and then she pointed towards the mens' changing room. At this point, I still had reallyyyy long hair but I was wearing a hat, a normal t-shirt and some basketball shorts. When the lady did that, my mom looked offended and we walked into the ladies' changing room. Haha it felt awesome though for the couple seconds.

I also remember just a couple years ago I was at Nordstroms and needed to use the restroom, but the nearest one was the mens' bathroom, the womens was on the second floor. My dad just told me to got to the guys, even with my long hair, and no one even took a second look at me xD. That was my first and only time being in the mens bathroom. I was so proud after that. My dad told me not to tell my mom though lol.