Greetings,

It has come to my attention there is a gap between genders and that it has been hard for me to relate to people and vice versa.
When I was a kid, I was isolated for some years until some girls approached me in 3rd grade. I made some friends later on and they were all girls except one guy. We played hide and seek and catch and run in the court, it was cool.
However as I grew up I realize my friends and females in general started to care about things such as beauty and cosmetics etc. guys on the other hand don't treat me like one of them, when they are actually interested in me, it was a romantic interest, not brotherhood. I am bisexual, I don't hate it, it just sets me apart.
Nowadays, I am working I can clearly see the difference between genders in my workplace. Since people relate to others and befriend on mutual interests I started to fall apart. I am able to have some laughs with people but that's about it. For females, when in comes to deeper interests, I can't follow so I ended up silent. For males, they treat me like a female and I don't see how I can break it off. I have heard of some females who did but not me. They make a lot of sexual jokes constantly, I though they are funny, would like to join but never said anything because I am insecure of my female status, you know.

Maybe it's the fact that I haven't come out as transsexual to them that builds the awkwardness? I don't think they will understand neither accept.
They do respect me enough to look pass the fact I am presenting myself male despite being biologically female.
I enjoy the freedom of expression I possess, however at this point it's dawning to me that I am lonely.

I never though gender was a problem, unfortunately it does seem to be the case for me at the moment. It's sad how this world or at least my surroundings, are so build up upon it. I mean the things they think about how they act around the opposite sex... I can't really gasp it all. Being different is fine in it self but the inability to fit it anywhere is painful.

Okay, I just want to know how it is for you guys do you have problems making friends as a transgender? The same problem as me or others?

i dont think its due to being transgender per-say. its more so of a social type. i'm very anti-social, i rather people not bother me, however there are times this "lone wolf" mentality of mines interferes with my daily life. i'm neither treat like a guy or a girl, just some unidentified object. its true i would love to have friends because frankly i hate sitting around the house on my days off, but i subconscious push them away. i'm literally like a walking contraindication

I know what you mean,I refused to allow myself to get close to anyone in case my secret came out.It becomes easier to not bother and harder to make friends the older you get

It's the same for me where I work. I don't really know how to talk to the women (they're probably put off by how masculine I seem as well) and the guys treat my like I'm female (but even if I were to come out I don't think I'm the bantering sort). I think I may be more outgoing if I did come out, but I can't atm. And I don't really want to and can't get close to someone as I'd have to tell them I'm trans. Oh well, I hope it gets better for you and me.

I'm very social, chatty and open and I always make friends. At my last work assignment I was there for only 3 months and I became really close to so many people there. I always become good friends with women and I share everything with them. It was emotional when I left and I still talk to the people they kept texting me before and after my surgery to make sure I'm ok and we still talk about EVERYTHING.

I just love socializing with women I was always friends with girls even when I was a little boy.

I was also open with all the guys and one of the straight married guys found out I thought he was cute. He seemed to take it as a compliment and he was always nice to me and talked to me.

Everyone knew I am a transsexual obviously.

You might think about a few things to better fit in with the boys...
concerning speech, mannerism and content...
men use more direct language...
well the sexual connotations might possibly bring you on a track you don't want to be... you want to be perceived as one of them... one possibility would be to change the subject...
you might talk with them about boys stuff... you are they interested in...

in general being nice and interested, maybe asking open questions might help...

I haven't had trouble making friends at all and in fact it has been easier. As far as understanding guys, they are completely mystery to me in some ways. The big key was that I'm just being me and I'm not going out of my way to be something or someone others want me to be. My advice is to be you. You don't have to share anything you do or don't want to. Maybe go to places where people with your interests go and that should help you have opportunities to meet people and make friends. Hugs and Good luck
Mariah

The above is very good advice - be yourself.  I was alone until college, and then slowly began making a friend here or there.  I had to force myself because of how shy I was.  At first, I found it easier to make friends with guys but eventually, my world expanded, haha.  I was also forced to be friendly after my first semester because I was elected president if the LGBTQ club (in my absence...).  When I moved to University, I had to look for new friends, and it was difficult sometimes but that was because I was very afraid of people asking me "hey, why do you dress like a guy?" or something, haha.  I came out to my closer friends eventually.  I made the best friends I could ever ask for when I started my Master's in 2012-2013.  At first, they didn't know but all of then have been amazingly accepting and supportive.

Just keep trying, and never compromise yourself.  It may take time but you'll get there.