It matters a lot to me.  In my experience some people care others don't.  Most people are cool and have. Nothing bad to say, in fact I've been getting randomn compliments from other women who don't even know me, but then there are the jerks.  They usually just stare, but I've gotten dirtly looks and have people say mean things.  In my case, I'm in between not doing much to gender myself one way or the other.  I'd probably be better off going all the way and stop giving into fear and waiting for the right moment to go fulltime, but at the moment I think its obvious that I'm different and in the process of transitioning.  Usually I'm okay with that and people are nice;however, sometimes I'm not and people are rude.  For the most part, people!e are cool.  Considering the amount of people that have started to use gender neutral terms and some even using feminine pronouns without asking, I think people are starting to understand and care less about it.  Like always, its the jerks that ruin it.  But yeah, I care greatly about that

I think most people are oblivious to just about everything around them and unless they are actively engaging you in conversation or checking you out (as deciding if your someone they want to hit on or talk to) no one will give you a second look. 

On the one hand, I think people often *do* notice, unless they are totally off in their own world.

On the other, I also don't think people care. Sure, you don't see someone like me everyday, but does it shock people? Not in 2015.

I believe generally that most everyday people wouldn't care; who you are or what you wear... however there are always the prying type that would look quizzically, or the ones that notice clothing styles or dress sense!

Generally unless someone is sitting closely to me I would not notice them full stop. It takes something really out of place to make a second glance...

I guess that's oblivious then....

L Katy

Strangers don't care in my opinion, unless you're REALLY attractive to them. Otherwise, you're just another person, which I have no problem with, since we can't say "hello, how are you" to everyone you meet. I tend to see people not pay much attention when I am in my usual "uniform"; black pants, black shirt, boots. I don't really buy clothing, since I wear the same stuff every week.

When I was in the South, and I wear a nice red shirt, or just something form-fitting.... yes, men tend to gawk at me...  (I am in guy-mode by the way). Females tend to never notice me.... I really don't know... but I only got hit on by 2 women in my ENTIRE LIFE. 1. She saw me daily, and wanted to date me. 2. She was a female celebrity (from Mexico), and I was 14, and just said I was good-looking.

I don't care what strangers look like either, unless they come out to greet me for some reason. The people I care about what I look like are my family, and people I work with (or daily social interaction). Or a guy I am on a date with, but that's a different matter all together.

Quote from: SarahBoo on April 26, 2015, 12:14:50 AM
On the one hand, I think people often *do* notice, unless they are totally off in their own world.

On the other, I also don't think people care. Sure, you don't see someone like me everyday, but does it shock people? Not in 2015.

Hell yes it shocks people. Take the witch to the stake, and burn the witch down!!!

*just joking*

But back when people who didn't fit the norm, just burn them down.

The older they are, the more likely strangers are to be offended by your very existence. I got the dirtiest look from an LOL the other day and I was dressed male. Had my bag with me, as always, but still! Sweetie bought it for me at the Coach Men's Outlet. I live in a very conservative and religious county in NYS. Yeah, we got those even so close yo NYC.

Quote from: Dee Walker on April 26, 2015, 10:22:41 AM
The older they are, the more likely strangers are to be offended by your very existence. I got the dirtiest look from an LOL the other day and I was dressed male. Had my bag with me, as always, but still! Sweetie bought it for me at the Coach Men's Outlet. I live in a very conservative and religious county in NYS. Yeah, we got those even so close yo NYC.

I went into a CVS that I've been going to for a long time and the lady cashier that's in her 70's was checking me out and I had bought eye brow pencil and as she was putting it in the bag she gave out a grunt.

I'd really say it depends on geographical location here in the Chicago suburbs people seem to be very tolerant overall ...mind you I am not full time but dress very andro and between my semi long hair ,nose piercing ,fem glasses I scream andro so I get a lot of stares as in people sometimes try to distinguish whether I'm male or female mostly men are the ones who take double takes as they think I'm prey until they realize I'm male ...lol.. I  present mainly andro so I'd say yup depends where you live I have trans friend in the south she claims its hell with the harrasment but I couldnt say from my own experience in that aspect .

I live in Evanston and it's extremely tolerant around here, but it's mostly college kids where I'm at.

when i go to the va dressed no one even pays attention i think it comes down to not atracting attention to your self just be confident whth yourself and most people are so cought up in there own drama and problems to even care what we look like