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Started by Amadeus, April 10, 2015, 03:07:34 PM

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Amadeus

Hey guys!  It's two days post-op I feel surprisingly good, despite the drains and the binder.  The oxycodone is making me a little itchy and now I feel like a Hawaiian kahuna the way my abdomen is so...fluffy, we'll say.

And Northside Hospital in Atlanta is...brill.  Absolutely brill.  Fully-staffed with nurses that had no problem referring to me as 'he' and 'Mr J'.  Dr Nahai did the surgery and I've had very little pain so far [except for right after I came out of anaesthesia, but Dilaudid knocked that out.]  I did freak out when they put the mask over my face to knock me out.  Three people held me down until I blacked out.  Good times.

Drains come out Tuesday.  And it's probably a good thing I'm not seeing anyone, as I'm not supposed to get my heart rate up too much for a couple weeks, so I can't even have a good wank.

I do feel a little weird about it all.  My friend took photos of my chest after Dr Nahai marked me up.  My mannaries looked...terrible.  They hung low, had stretch marks all over the place...they should never have been allowed to develop when I was a kid.  But after twenty years of lugging them around and now they're suddenly gone...it's just weird.  I mean, how am I going to warm my hands in winter now?  I used to shove them under a Devil's Dumpling or even stick a sock under there to warm it up.  And I can't say that I feel any more confident right now.  I might once the drains are gone and I don't have to wear the binder all the time.  And get rid of some Buddha belly.

Anyway, thanks for the well-wishes, everyone!  Means a lot to me.   :)
 
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FTMax

Congrats man! It is a surreal feeling. Glad your surgery went well, I hope your healing goes as easily as mine has these first few days.
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Alexthecat

Stick your hands between your legs or under your armpits.

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jumpthenexttrain

I never disclose my status in an online profile like okcupid, because I try to stay as stealth as possible. Also from my experience, if someone finds out after we've exchanged a few messages instead of having it blatantly on my profile, they're a little less weird about finding out

most of my hook ups came from the gay bar, Craigslist or grindr. With the gay bar guys I rarely mentioned anything about not having a penis until my pants were coming off (I don't recommend this but I really hate telling people). On Craigslist I always mentioned it through emails before meeting, for safety reasons. Grindr I mentioned it if I knew I was meeting them for a hook up, and didn't mention it if I was just meeting them and didn't know what might happen. Stay safe. Carry pepper spray or something idk maybe, it makes me feel slightly more safe.
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MacG


Quote from: ftmax on April 26, 2015, 07:12:37 AM
Congrats man! It is a surreal feeling. Glad your surgery went well, I hope your healing goes as easily as mine has these first few days.
Hope you guys are recovering well. Mine is in two days.
Monog married, so not much to say on casual sex!

Amadeus

Hey, congrats, MacG!  Are you having DI?  Mine was.  Me and my mate were talking about it last night, about how well it's going.  With my gallbladder surgery back in 2010, I felt horrible for a week.  I partly blame the Darvocet.  I mostly blame my family for making the house so tense and mental.

So, had a fun discovery this morning around 5am: two heart monitor pads were still stuck to my back, under my binder.  I remember finding a couple while I was in hospital and just peeling them off.  But these...I kinda want to go back, drop 'em on a table, and say, "You lot forget something?  LOLz."
 
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MacG

They're ALWAYS leaving those special stickers on special places.
Yup, having DI. Possibly an oophorectomy at the same time. I'll find out tomorrow.
It's great to hear recovery is going well for you!

MacG

They're ALWAYS leaving those special stickers on special places.
Yup, having DI. Possibly an oophorectomy at the same time. I'll find out tomorrow.
It's great to hear recovery is going well for you!

Aazhie

I don't do online hookups but I tend to have a lot of dudes bothering me at conventions. In a good way ;D But to be honest a lot more of my gay male friends were into me before T and coming out and they are casual sex-tastic among their friends so I kind of have a hookup line whenever I need it.  I think most dudes will be pretty honest about whether they are not into transmen and the important thing is not getting too worried about the people who aren't interested because many people ARE! I prefer friends of friends (with good judgement) simply because I know someone who knows them...

Anyway, take it easy and rest up and hopefully you'll have some cool folks to get to know when you're recovered!!
You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don't try to forget the mistakes, but you don't dwell on it. You don't let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space.
Johnny Cash
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