So I am curious about how trans people (mainly mtf but also ftm if there are any here reading this ) are able to find luck and success in dating. For one I would say I am bi, but with Mich larger female wantings. Sexually of course but mainly emotionally. I crave a relationship based on sensitivity, honesty and openness. However, I am concerned about a lot of dating sites. I get either no luck or a few claim to be interested but are either just fetishist's or players. I actually don't mind if a date thinks it is interesting to date a mtf as long as it isn't just for sex. I want love and someone with a genuine interest in me. Are there any good sites or any good stories my fellow ladies and guys can tell me ?

Mainly I just want someone to want me for me. And not just want a mtf for sexual fantasies.

I empathize with wanting to be wanted for who you are.  I can't give advice really, but I will say don't give up!  For sure, you'll find someone.

Your question is a good one. I'm sure you aren't the only one who wonders where to look for a partner. I would be interested in knowing this as well although I am an F to M. There are dating sites for cis people all over the web, some are trashy, some seem ok, but the ones for transgenders don't seem to be as serious and some are downright pornographic.

For those of us who are introverts or are unable to get out much, it seems easier to look on line, but you never really know if the person you are talking to is really who they say they are. Its very easy to put a false picture in, say what you think the other person wants you to say etc. That is enough of a problem in the cis world, but we have to consider the possibility of being a target. On the few days I can get to work, I hear jokes or downright hateful comments about transgenders or alternative lifestyles of other types. Some are just ignorant, but others are dead serious.

Not that all transgenders want to date another transgender, are there any sites that are strictly for transgenders and are not just hookup sites for sex? I'd like to hear what others who have looked around at several sites and have found one or more that are serious sites where transgenders are looking for something meaningful and seem safe.


sam1234

In the past year and a half I've gone on about a dozen dates from OKCupid, most of them with intelligent, kind, interesting people. However it takes a lot of persistence. I have a very low response rate (around 10-20%) from the messages I send, and then most of those peter out after a little back and forth.

True say guys! See dating a fellow transgender, either mtf or ftm is just fine with me. Really makes no difference. But even then, living in a more rural area it I hard to find another. I haven't been in a relationship for years, and even then I was acting male. I just want to be myself.

We have a small transgender group here, but they tend to be active publicly and since I deal with clients from all walks of life, were I to be recognized, it could cause a problem. The town is relatively small, and its very easy to run into someone you know every time you leave the house.

I have nothing against dating a cis female, but dating a translady insures that they at least accept the fact that you can be a male even though your body had to be surgically changed and your hormones had to come from an outside source. Like Chloe, its been years since I've been in a relationship. Some nice offers, but I wasn't ready.

sam1234

Quote from: sam1234 on May 01, 2015, 12:03:18 AM
Your question is a good one. I'm sure you aren't the only one who wonders where to look for a partner. I would be interested in knowing this as well although I am an F to M. There are dating sites for cis people all over the web, some are trashy, some seem ok, but the ones for transgenders don't seem to be as serious and some are downright pornographic.

For those of us who are introverts or are unable to get out much, it seems easier to look on line, but you never really know if the person you are talking to is really who they say they are. Its very easy to put a false picture in, say what you think the other person wants you to say etc. That is enough of a problem in the cis world, but we have to consider the possibility of being a target. On the few days I can get to work, I hear jokes or downright hateful comments about transgenders or alternative lifestyles of other types. Some are just ignorant, but others are dead serious.

Not that all transgenders want to date another transgender, are there any sites that are strictly for transgenders and are not just hookup sites for sex? I'd like to hear what others who have looked around at several sites and have found one or more that are serious sites where transgenders are looking for something meaningful and seem safe.


sam1234

Oh, the irony!

Hugs, Devlyn

True say Sam! I want people to know I am a woman first! I maybe moving soon but you know it doesn't matter where I am per say. I demand respect!

Chloe,
I think that is key to any relationship. Mutual respect. Not just for gender, but for your strengths, weaknesses, fears and loves.

sam1234