I'd love to hear what others have to share on this. I know if I decide to transition that I'll need to make big changes in my life. I guess the girl in me is a tomboy though as I've always been into cars and motorbikes and to this day I'm always spending time working on them as well as riding and racing bikes whenever possible. Part of my main struggle is that I feel everybody involved in the scene I'm part of wouldn't understand. I feel that if I was ever to pursue these things again is need to move to somewhere new and to make new friends...

Sorry, my grammar is much better, I'm just typing this in an iPhone and it keeps incorrectly correcting for me

oh, I'm a complete tomboy as well. though I'm not in to sports are cars or what not, but I love combat boots, fighting and I don't like dresses or skirts or makeup and I rather my hair short.

QuoteI guess the girl in me is a tomboy

Lots of cis gals are tomboys.  Why can't you be one too? 

Nothing says that you have to give up the things that you enjoy in order to be your authentic self (well, maybe you should give up some of the gross behaviors  ). Girls do the same things that guys do after all. I wrench on my car where I live and yes I get some weird looks but so what? Be the girl you want to be, the girl you already are - not who you think girls "should be".

Jessica, Stereotypes really are meant to be broken. As others have pointed out many girls work on cars and other activities that are considered to be guys activities. There is nothing wrong with it and enjoying them and wanting to do them doesn't make you any less the woman you are. Each of us is unique so be proud of the authentic unique person you are. Hugs
Mariah

Quote from: Jessica_Doll on May 01, 2015, 10:56:13 PM
I'd love to hear what others have to share on this. I know if I decide to transition that I'll need to make big changes in my life. I guess the girl in me is a tomboy though as I've always been into cars and motorbikes and to this day I'm always spending time working on them as well as riding and racing bikes whenever possible. Part of my main struggle is that I feel everybody involved in the scene I'm part of wouldn't understand. I feel that if I was ever to pursue these things again is need to move to somewhere new and to make new friends...

I've lost all my friends to my femininity before. I t sucks, it really makes you feel low to have people turn their backs on you because you no longer wish to repress the woman in your soul. At least, that's how I felt at first, after a while, I realized that people who can't accept me as Maddy, don't deserve me in their lives. Sometimes things just don't go like we planned, but we become stronger by holding our chins up, and facing the next day with the ferocity of a mother lion protecting her pride. As for being a tomboy, one of the best things about womens' fashion, is that no matter your style, you can find a look that suits you. Just be strong, don't let other people push you away from your true self.

Lets see: There are female F1 drivers, female Indie drivers, stock car racers, oil riggers (one is a member here) female astronauts, test pilots, mechanics, steel workers, building workers, crane operators, concrete pourers (one is a close friend she runs a concrete poring business), roof workers (another close friend, she reckons she can climb a ladder in high heels).

Where in the manual of life does it say a woman cannot do anything she wants to do?

I found the classic car and bikers all OK with me when I go to shows or meet people I hung around with before.

Quote from: Cindy on May 02, 2015, 02:57:07 AM
Lets see: There are female F1 drivers, female Indie drivers, stock car racers, oil riggers (one is a member here) female astronauts, test pilots, mechanics, steel workers, building workers, crane operators, concrete pourers (one is a close friend she runs a concrete poring business), roof workers (another close friend, she reckons she can climb a ladder in high heels).

Where in the manual of life does it say a woman cannot do anything she wants to do?

Right on Cindy!  I helped my daughter rebuild the engine in her Rover car a while ago and we had fun doing it too despite the neighbours looking over the fence in disbelief.

Quote from: Cindy on May 02, 2015, 02:57:07 AM
Lets see: There are female F1 drivers, female Indie drivers, stock car racers, oil riggers (one is a member here) female astronauts, test pilots, mechanics, steel workers, building workers, crane operators, concrete pourers (one is a close friend she runs a concrete poring business), roof workers (another close friend, she reckons she can climb a ladder in high heels).

Where in the manual of life does it say a woman cannot do anything she wants to do?

Very true Cindy, thanks for reminding me. I can only imagine if is was a sexy curvy girl that I'd look much better in a set of motorcycle leathers

Quote from: big kim on May 02, 2015, 04:04:42 AM
I found the classic car and bikers all OK with me when I go to shows or meet people I hung around with before.

I guess the great thing is that people go to those events for the cars and bikes, not the people watching and knowing what you're looking at still gives you as much credit as you had before

I view my gender identity as like 25% of my totality. I love girlie-girl. I also enjoy many, "guy" sort of activities. Plus I am..... frugal. I can do a brake job for 1/4 of what it cost to outsource it. Takes 1 hr out of my life.

I cannot deny being that sort of person any more then I could keep on denying the woman inside of me

The stupidest thing I ever did was selling off all my tools and my sidecar outfit during my transition because I mistakenly thought that they couldn't be a part of my life anymore.

I am a girl - that being said, one that is struggling to figure out where I fit on the gender spectrum - and I drive a muscle car.  ;-)

I have the same problem occasionally.  It occurs to me that I've tried building my life around fitting gender stereotypes before, I chuckle about not learning my lesson yet, and then go about my business. 

There are few things sexier to me than a girl with a wrench in her hand and grease/dirt on her face...

Quote from: femmebutt on May 02, 2015, 11:53:24 PM
There are few things sexier to me than a girl with a wrench in her hand and grease/dirt on her face...

Steady on girlfriend    Have you ever tried to work with tools without messing up a good manicure?

Jessica - just be who you are and enjoy it!  Recognise your physical limitations and do what you can to render them irrelevant, without them dominating your life.  Enjoy your bikes!

Hi,

Hmmm , Interesting and I wonder why,

Okay im weird so lets have at least that part right  and after that what ever I say well does it matter .

Im a builder by trade and was trained by men some were lovely , plus did joinery  again more men and worked on in the heavy trades on big sites again men on farms and yes you got the point .

Okay did any of that make me like them look like them or be like them  well of cause not why because im a female  ooops, then what the hell was I doing around men on these sites  working and learning my trade and I did,

I was perceived as a male and nothing was said by me, after a few years   I ran my own show and now still do detail for women , why because they prefer a woman on the job /site .plus had our daughter work for me plus others of cause ,

yes I fixed and redid cars trucks and any thing heavy duty on wheels farm gear and redesigned machinery ,

Now would you say all of this was only men can do or what the hell is a woman doing this . well I can tell you I was not going to sit behind a desk all day and type or be inside a factory  when I can build them  no thanks and im not a tom boy I may be other things ....... not that .

and if you go to other countrys youll find us doing building on large building sites and yes I,v seen them and know them so there you have it we can do as good as men and dare I say it even better , WW2 will attest to that ,

Im pretty normal for a female with out my womb Im tough and can hack it yet feminine enough to just be myself I don't look pretty and don't need too,  what I lack I make up in  other ways , and my background and experance sure helps as well ,

Trust me on this we can take the men on and do as well as they can , they had the upper hand not any more ,

...noeleena...

Muscle cars, hot rods and sports cars were without question the most masculine part of my personality.  These days I don't twist wrenches any more, but I still like to rent seat time to drive hot laps in exotic cars on the race track.  And I am not giving that up.

Other than that, I like to play golf (and dream about all the cute clothes I can wear on the golf course).  I also love gardening (that's the earth mother in me.)  I also love interior design and decoration -- but I've done repiping and rewiring in order to make sure the house works as good as it looks.

When I was in denial about being transgender, I thought of myself as a guy with a well developed feminine side.

So now it turns out I am a girl with a bit of a masculine side.

So I am not really giving up anything.  I am still the same person I always was.  I am just bringing my appearance in line with who I am inside.