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Finally came out to my best friends, thinking about coming out to my family

Started by awkward-shark, May 03, 2015, 11:51:54 AM

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Yesterday I came out to my best friends. Well, one of them already knew but this time was like "official". We went out for some drinks last night, I hoped that another friend would meet us but she couldn't make it. A friend, L, noticed that A and V were calling me Jul instead of my full name (Jul is a shorter version of my name). So when they went to the restroom I told L that I was trans, I went by Jul and male pronouns. At first she thought I was joking but she took it very well. We kept talking, she made a few jokes, they asked a few questions, called me Julian, almost didn't misgender me, everything was fine.
So far, I think my closest friends know it, I could go on and send msgs to everyone else, but I prefer to do it face to face.
About my mom... my family is clueless. I do want to come out soon, tomorrow I'll see a therapist (not a gender therapist but I asked for someone who had experience with transgeder people) and I want to start hrt soon... my goal is to be out by the time next semester starts (around august/september) including most classmates and teachers... I hope my therapist could help me coming out to my mother, maybe I could take her with me and the therapist could talk to her, just so she knows I'm not making it up or that it's not "the internet's fault" as she so often says.

I really can't live like this anymore, I'm not depressed, but I get blue from time to time.
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Mariah

Congrats on coming out to your best friends. I bet it feels so much better having done so. Now as far as your mom and your family the therapist will really be able to help you prepare to come out to them when your ready. Since they are not a gender therapist and even if they were I would recommend having some ideas to how you want to do it and when in mind. You have to find what works for you. Good luck and hugs.
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Laura_7

Congratulations on coming out to your friends :)

You could have a look at this one posting for a few thoughts that might help you:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,186574.msg1661576.html#msg1661576

You might talk this all through with your therapist...

*hugs*
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