Hello everyone,
First of all, I wanted to thank a lot the Susan's community. I'm not an active member but reading stuff here helped me a lot and still helps me from time to time. So, thanks.
I came out as trans to my girlfriend 2 years ago and to my parents 1 years ago. They are wonderful people and everything went well. However, I found myself reassuring them a lot, educating them a lot... I was tyring in these moments when I needed support more than to be supportive. I was a bit disapointed : Why is shuch a big deal to transition when other self-improvement stories are so inspiring? Why such a mess to accept that one can feel out of the social norm when great people are shining in hisory books?
And then realized that I asked myself a lot of question because I was facing personal issues that make me doubt and question my former believes. I understood that I needed a lot of education and support to accepte my own self.
I am suppose to be the one better knowing and understanding myself so how can I blame other for needing time, education and support.
After that I started educating people around. Giving a better understanding. And the better informed they were the more accepting they became. It was great.
But in the same time people around started feel guilty.
The guilty to not seeing it before, not beeing awsomefriend or parents.
How a Mom cannot see that his little boy was in fact a little girl ?
I felt guilty not to know my own self.
I also felt guilty when I realised that even beeing trans I used to be a bit transphobic... And I'm still a bit I suppose when I wish I was a "real" girl. Don't I think that Transgirl is a short word for REAL girl being born with a "unusual" body ?
As a result I understand that educating and reassuring should come together. Education and Hits in accepted norms leading to doubts and guilt. Reassuring should follow Education.
But there is too many people to reassure and I have not unlimited energy.
I would like to reassure all of them without redoing it everytime, to every one.
Naturally I looked for reassuring media on the internet. From research papers to comics, I found very few.
So, do you know some reassuring stuff (in french)? Name-them please !
And I want to create a reassuring comic and would like to discuss the idea. Stories to share ? Advices ?
Thanks again,
"When [...] tell others about your goal, you are more likely to follow through."
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