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Did you ease into full time or jump right in?

Started by Christine Eryn, May 01, 2015, 01:13:51 PM

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Jessie Ann

I guess I am just jumping in head first into the deep end of the pool  :o  I have been on injectable E for 2 months and am seeing some pretty good results.  I filed for my name and gender change and have the hearing for that in two weeks.  Since I am in a profession that is licensed I really can't go full time until I get the legal name change in place.  I will have all of that completed by the middle of June and I have already met with HR and Employee Relations to schedule my change over at work and effective 6/15 I will be full time (even at work) with a completed legal name and gender change on almost everything.   :D
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Rose City Rose

I went full-time after about 10 months on HRT.  Before then, I had been gradually easing my look more and more into androgynous territory, presenting female on campus, and stocking up on women's clothing but I balked at going all the way because I thought I couldn't do it.  But after a while interacting with the world as a man was taking its toll on me and I decided I had to take the risk and be me.

I made it a point that, from the beginning of the 2014 school year on, I would be Rose for the rest of my life, I would abruptly stop wearing any items of male clothing in public, and I would complete my transition by changing my name and gender marker by year's end.

I did it.  I'm almost 2 1/2 years on HRT now and more or less fully transitioned (though I'm still not ruling out bottom surgery).  I pass well, even though I never wear makeup and never bothered (or will bother) with any sort of top surgery.

My $0.02 on FFS: It's not really worth it unless:
A. You have an exaggeratedly masculine face and have had extreme problems passing because of this.
B. You're starting later in life and unlikely to get the full benefit of soft tissue changes that come with HRT.
C. Your brow ridge and jaw contour causes you so much dysphoria that you won't be complete until it's gone (because that's a perfectly valid reason!)

But if you're just worried about passing, try without the expensive top surgery first!  I'm a big woman (5' 10" and 230 lbs) with a beefy Scots-German frame.  I'm not petite or gracile by any measure.  But what I've found is that if you project a plausibly feminine deportment and grooming and can stand a messy trial-and-error process learning to work with what you've got, you'll save a lot of money and possible disfiguring complications by minimizing the amount of surgery you get done.
*Started HRT January 2013
*Name and gender marker changed September 2014
*Approved and issued letters for surgery September 2015
*Surgery Consultation November 2015
*Preop electrolysis October 2016-March 2019
*GRS April 3 2019
I DID IT!!!
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ashley_thomas

I'm rounding 1 year on low dose HRT and am part time, could go full time now even before increasing doses. I've feminized quite a bit hence the longer stay on LD.  I'm getting some male fail and men staring at me in casual settings where I dress ambiguously but no male fail at work where I have to now wear a jacket all the time (lawyer so it's in the dress code).  Not sure when I'll pull the trigger to full time but it's probably next year. In the mean time more hair growth more practice with friends and more getting used to being me the times I get to which are about 80% of the time I'm not at work.  I suspect full time will be about 24 months in and when male fail is regular.


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allisonsteph

I had originally planned to ease into gong full time but life sometimes throws us curve balls. I was planning on coming out at work, but was terminated for other reasons the day I had planed on making my announcement. I went home that day, I took off my male clothing and told myself I would never wear it again, and I haven't. Two weeks later I filed the paperwork to legally change my name and gender and I started HRT five months after gong full time.
In Ardua Tendit (She attempts difficult things)
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iKate

Easing in with a hard date to go full time.

I could say I'm mostly part time "after hours and weekends." Work and the kids school really are the only places I'm not. Church I am, sorta.

I will be FT once I take off to go to Korea. When I come back to work in July I will be transitioned over at work and thus full time. I have a firm date with work for the switchover.

I would have gone FT sooner but I don't want to just switch mid term in school for the kids.
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Dierdre Lenore

I just jumped in. Don't even know what level of transition I will undertake. Name change is the only thing actually in process as of now.
Work it in to work it out!

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