We broke up in like Nov last year, talked on off and argued a bit since then. She wanted to stay friends even though the way she broke up from me was really sh*tty. We slept together in January which we always do each time we break up (3rd time in two years) which made me feel even worse about myself. My life has been a mess hence the number of break ups. Some time after that I sent her back all the stuff she ever got me, my warped way of winning her back. She texted me saying she got rid of everything I ever got her. Some time after that I told her I came out, she texted back asking what my family said and that was that. Then a few days later I texted her saying how I was doing and asked how uni was going and she gave a blunt reply. Haven't spoken to her in a week now. I know I'm still hung up on her bcos she's the only person who sees me as me and are relationship was rocky, but we also really loved each other. I just want to know the right combination of words to make it all better, but I can't think of what. I can't help but think me transitioning will win her back as I've put it off for the last two years. Even though it was a crappy break up, I still want her. I don't know where I'm going with this,  just wanted to get it off my chest I guess.

You can't really "win" people back. Since she got rid of everything you have ever given her, it seems like she's pretty much done with you. Your best bet is to just focus on you and not her. It's going to be hard, I know, but pursuing it and pursuing it is only going to drive her away further and you'll lose her as a friend.

I'm sorry if this seems so blunt but sometimes you need to learn when it's over.

Hugs Elis. Loss is crappy. No other way around it.

You're a great guy. You're caring and interested. Any woman would be lucky to have you. If she doesn't see that, she's not the right person for you regardless of how you feel about her. You're not doing yourself any favors by setting her up rent-free in your head (and heart). You CAN move past this, I promise. You are strong enough and brave enough to move on.

I feel you, mate.  I'm in the same boat (you know, the type with no oars, a hole, and stuck adrift in Drake's Passage...).  If you ever need to commiserate, feel free to PM me.  Otherwise, hang in there, and try to distract yourself (preferably with friends/ family/ hobbies). 

The only way I've found useful to get over someone is to just excise them completely from my life - remove all links and objects and reminders to them (doesn't mean destroying them, maybe just put them in a box, that goes in another box in the attic!). Don't contact them, don't let them contact you, avoid places you know you'll bump into them or their friends. No FB "stalking" or Googling. Find other things to keep you preoccupied. Yes, it is a fairly brutal approach but if you are feeling obsessed/desperate then it calls for desperate measures. The pain will still be strong for a month or two but does start to fade after that. Having been there before I can relate to how awful it feels.

^Elis, I think Ms. Grace's approach would work for most people so, you might give it a try...  That approach has not worked for me, but I'm an unusually intense person.  Anyway, it's worth a try (definitely don't destroy anything, though).