Hello girls,

I put on panties,bra and lipstick when I was 14. Wow I was beautiful. Put in the back of my mind but always preferred being a hot girl. I am married and can't fully crossdress but feel more like a woman than a man.Especially when I put on makeup.

What do you think? Am I transgender?

Trans gender is a pretty broad spectrum of cross gender identification, so yes, you may very well fit in there somewhere.

No one can tell you whether you are or aren't transgender. It's something you'll answer for yourself.

Though what you're feeling is something a lot of us here also felt. We buried our feelings for many years that we'd rather see ourselves as female than male.  So you have that in common.

I have two suggestions:
1. Consider seeing a gender therapist. A good one can help you sort these feelings out.
2. Keep reading posts and posting questions. There's a lot that can be learned from these forums.

Good luck, Jeannie.

Jeannie, It depends, for example I knew and hated (Dysphorically hated) my Genitals from a very early age, but learnt how to hide and control the inner me, and conform (as much as I hated that).
But I did cross dress, which was really a double edged sword, it relieved my tensions, but always re-ignited my hatred of not being able to be me. I had a euphoric moment 15 years or so ago when I realised I was not alone and it was a known condition.

I think many of us know fairly early in life, Many get a sudden wave, Some it builds up slowly over the years...

Chat with a gender therapist if your not really sure... They will help you explore yourself and decide, At least then you can decide your future and journey if or as appropriate.

L Katy 

Jeannie,

Transgender covers a broad spectrum from cross-dresser to those who feel the need to completely transition to the opposite gender, transexual.

Best thing to do as other have and will advise, seek out a qualified gender therapist. This is especially important if these feelings of wanting to cross-dress or belief that you are of the opposite gender are personally discomforting. You may have come across the term Gender Dysphoria. If you are suffering discomfort, all the more important to seek out a therapist. On the other hand if you just enjoy dressing that's okay too. All are welcome at Susan's.

Look around there are a lot of resources here and when you feel the need find a therapist wwho can help you explore your feelings.

Yes you are, Jeannie, because crossdressers are definitely transgender. I get the feeling that the question you really have is "Am I transsexual?" and that's something only you can answer. Some people can sort this out on their own, and some find a therapist to be helpful.

Hugs, Devlyn

I think there's a possibility you may be on the spectrum, yes. But only you can decide for yourself. Take time and explore your identity, find out what's right for you, discuss your thoughts and such with other trans people. I would certainly say "but feel more like a woman than a man" sounds like you probably are on the spectrum, but only you can decide that for yourself!

There are different degrees of "trans-ness"you could be a CD or a transsexual, (or even find that doing drag helps you express who you are). Not all trans-feminine persons were really effeminate during childhood, so don't worry if you didn't play with dolls much or didn't ever wear a princess dress. Many t-girls do have the extremely effeminate childhood, but some of us don't, some of us were tomboys (I was effeminate enough to get bullied, but didn't understand at the time). Get into a TG-friendly therapist ASAP, they will help you work through your current life issues, help you transition, or be more comfortable with who you are already.  You will find friends here. BTW, if you feel like your on the edge, there is help available, I've been in dark places before and don't want anyone else to go there if they can avoid it.