Because I meet the best people ever and I always feel good about myself for it.

*starts hug chain reaction*

Everyone hug two people and tell them to do the same.

*hugs everyone* ... I can't choose just two

I was hoping to find Buddha, Gandhi, Mohammad ,Jesus ,Confucius or Einstein or someone of similar knowledge to show me the path to an enlightened transition

idk, I like online forums and felt like I would be able to connect with people better here than on an impersonal site like ->-bleeped-<-

I want to go on a Queer forum which isn't focused on gay issues.

mostly for knowledge.  the amount of helpful information on the forums here is amazing, and most of it isn't outdated so you can go back and read old posts on things. 
but also to see the amazing progress of the ladies and gentlemen here for inspiration for myself.  and for helping build hope in myself that its possible to be happy by reading about other peoples experiences.

I found this place when I was googling tips on passing and then decided to stick around because there aren't very many forums like this that still have a pulse and are cozy at the same time.

I come here because no where else have I found such acceptance, not just for myself but for everyone who comes here. I've never before seen an online community like this.

And it's the only place in the world where I have never felt like a complete misfit.

I'm not what I would consider shy by any stretch, but when I first started to post it did have an odd 'going out on a limb' feel.  I was sure that once people read my crazy wonderings I would be shown the door, not only did this 'not' happen, but people actually responded!!!!!!!!  I kinda figured, well this just might be a worthwhile place to be.  Sure enough this just gets reinforced every day.   Dani

Well, I'm kind of shy, so just to meet people and learn about things.  Hope everyone is doing well!

Well I just joined because I've given up trying to find a tgirlfriend here in the UK and I'm sick of only being able to find porn or escorts on the Internet so I figured here I'll at least be able to talk normally to the kind of women I wish I could bump into in the street.. if that even makes sense lol..

I'll get my coat..


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I joined this site in the hopes of gaining a better understanding of gender identity and transgender issues and to help try to figure out what exactly I am (non-gendered, maybe? but still not certain).

My own local trans community forum is pretty much deader than dead:



Mod Edit - Links to other forums are against TOS.

It's a way for me to get my thoughts out of my head without having to "out" myself. It's also good to talk to people who are friendly and have had plenty of experience in a similar situation to the one I'm in xx

For me it has always been the wisdom and experience of those that have ventured before me. Medical professionals, psychologists and the like can claim that they "understand" etc, etc, but unless you have lived the lives that most of us have lived, I don't think that any of these people can really, truly understand.

Throughout life suffering form Mental Illness brought about by my GID, friends (and I use that term loosely) and family have slowly disappeared into the ether. Like many with GID, I find sense and comfort in knowing that I am not alone and Susan's has opened my eyes to this over the years.

Many people will tell you that it is imperative to have a support network to surround yourself with as you deal with GID and this is very true. Unfortunately, a lot of us end up finding ourselves alone with the only support we can rely on being the professionals we pay to see.

For some of us, we search the internet looking for groups that we can associate with, particularly in real life but like some have mentioned, most of what you find revolves around sex orientated websites etc. Like many, I too have been unsuccessful in meeting girls that were just regular people like me.

A local community organisation used to have a dinner night for us girls once a week. For me it was around a two hour drive to get there and then another two hours to drive back. At first I was excited to finally be part of a group of girls in real life but as time went on, this social evening of regular girls, slow became hijacked by girls who's whole life revolved around sex, sex work and drug use and one by one the regular girls were scared away because of the behaviour of others at these functions. Eventually the evenings were closed down because of the lack of attendance and the behaviour of the few that were still attending.

Isolation is the hardest thing to deal with when trying to live with GID and although I continue to search for real life contact with girls like me, coming to Susan's has given me strength and made the feelings of isolation more bearable.

If it wasn't for Susan's, I would have given up a long time ago.

An arena where I can feel comfortable, gain insight and life stories of folks journeys, challenges and successes. Also perhaps helping those that struggle as I have coming to terms and finally deciding that I have to press forward.

Also to make friends and feel accepted for who I am, as I am. The real life will come very soon, so the sharing and caring is important to me in preparing myself for the future.

And hey its such a vibrant and friendly place.

L Katy   

I came looking for knowledge. I found it along with acceptance and the realisation that I am as normal as anyone else. I stay because you're all so lovely and I feel I'm among friends who won't laugh at me or judge me for being the way I am. I get a real dose of courage and hope reading the successes, small and large, that people share here.

I came to find a place where I could ask questions about transgender issues without being judged as evil, weird or perverted - a safe place.  And a place where I could try on a female identity without freaking out people in real life.

I am happy to say that the people here have all been really nice.

Quote from: Renate on October 19, 2009, 07:49:59 PM
I'm here for the free coffee.

Yeah, caffeine works . . .

Mostly here to assert my ID in some sense. And then there's the part about confirmation and being authentically me.

And then there's the part of me who gets up every morning and consciously thinks about what gender to present, and how. As big a deal as it is for me, I remind myself that most people I encounter day-in, day-out don't think much about my gender and how I present.

No skirts, no floral print blouses -- Gawd knows I have them!