So I'm a 17 year old trans man, came out to myself and friends 6 years ago. Family doesn't know for my own safety.
I don't have access to a job due to weird school hours and just not having the time this summer- so money for me is pretty tight some times.
I was saving up for a new binder- My current one(underworks 997) is ripped to all hell thanks to my cats, and has to be paired with a ripping T-kingdom binder that I got in a giveaway(the t-kingdom binder doesnt bind at all by itself).

Anyways, I just made $31 from selling some art, needing to save just a little more for shipping, and I could get the binder I need.

But my mom stole my money.

I called her out on it and she told me she was "paying herself back what I owe her"
I do not owe her anything so it's like "??" but I'm not surprised as this isn't the first time she's done this.

I don't know if this was worthy to post, or if there was a point- I just really needed to get this out of my system. I'm pissed and dysphoric as hell.

Quote from: Knourish on May 21, 2015, 01:15:44 PM
I just made $31 from selling some art

Did you make the art?
Have you looked into selling on Etsy?

What? That is so wrong. She really shouldn't have done that. Maybe ask her why she thinks you owe her?

Quote from: KarinMcD on May 21, 2015, 01:28:45 PM
Did you make the art?
Have you looked into selling on Etsy?

I make all the art I sell, yes.

I've thought about it, but wouldn't that take up a lot of time? As in, I would have to wait until school ends right? I don't know much about selling on Etsy.

Quote from: SparklingJewel on May 21, 2015, 01:31:09 PM
What? That is so wrong. She really shouldn't have done that. Maybe ask her why she thinks you owe her?

She does stuff like this a lot- usually when I ask she'll make up a story that she lent me money to buy something that, in reality, I either bought with my own money, or don't even own. It's pretty gross lmao

Yeah it is gross :/ Tell her to stop doing that?

Quote from: SparklingJewel on May 21, 2015, 01:51:08 PM
Yeah it is gross :/ Tell her to stop doing that?

My mom's.. Not a person to listen to reason, ahaha.

Well its yours...
have you told her you don't go around and take things of hers ?

And you might say parents are responsible for their kids support...

hugs

You can't just let her steal money that you worked for though.

Find a safe place to stash the cash. A light duty safe is pretty inexpensive, $10 or less.

And hide it.

You could tape an envelope on the underside of a drawer.

Your doors should be closed if you access that.

hugs

Do You have a paypal account?

"Hide" some where she will find it, but outsmart her and hide the greater part where she won't ever look after having found the bait. Don't forget complaining, though.

I should have specified that in this instance she stole from my checking account(my accounts linked with hers)
but I will do the "letting her find some cash, but not a lot", as that's been an issue as well.

I'm worried as my grandparents are giving me my savings account money ($3744, planning to use it for transition funds) and im worried she'll steal that, too.

Open an account at a different bank for the savings acct money. Banks are ok, but credit unions are better imho. Either should allow someone under 18 to open an account.

You are not the only one out there to suffer with bad parents.  I could tell lots of stories about mine.

Work as hard as you can on becoming self sufficient.  Protect yourself, be patient, and learn to endure the setbacks.  You will get to where you want to be.

When you are under 18,money can be a sticky issue. Bank accounts usually require and adult (parent) social security number.

Quote from: LordKAT on May 22, 2015, 04:23:18 AM
When you are under 18,money can be a sticky issue. Bank accounts usually require and adult (parent) social security number.

I'd say look around a bit.
Some have special offers for young people. You might ask about the conditions.
Another possibility would be your grandparents setting up an account for you.


hugs

Quote from: LordKAT on May 22, 2015, 04:23:18 AM
When you are under 18,money can be a sticky issue. Bank accounts usually require and adult (parent) social security number.

Knourish says that grandparents are providing the money. So, explain mom's sticky fingers and ask them to help with the account.

Update:
I got the money from my grandparents and am about to buy the new binder i needed.
so far my mom hasnt touched the money which is cool! :+)