I was speaking with my psychotherapist today, and she suggested I find another trans community that is not ->-bleeped-<-.  I'm going to repost something I posted there. Psychotherapy, in short, has helped me overcome my gender issues. I still have transgender feelings, but I was able to contextualize them within the scope of my family and the trauma I endured.

I went into detail about the abandonment of my mother and the attention my sister received after she was born which influenced my trans feelings. My mother didn't have time for us and when I was 7 she was killed by a drunk driver. This event compounded my trans feelings. I wanted to be a woman so I could be closer to her. I felt I was trans all my life, but these feelings have a basis in family trauma. So here I am non transitioner, and I'd like to be a part of a community that doesn't delete things that are not the typical trans narrative about transition being the only option.

Mod Edit - I appreciate the difficulty you had elsewhere but in fairness to other forums it needed to be edited. TOS 5

*hugs*

Trauma can do many things, and making one believe they are trans *is* one of those things. Its definitely not a popular opinion because politically we don't want the general public grabbing any nonstandard narrative and saying we're not "really" trans due to trauma (especially psychic trauma).

Like you, when I first started out I thought I might have been traumatized into believing I was trans  (severe and prolonged childhood abuse, not accepted as a man by peers and wife, etc) but as I processed the traumas I realized that it was layered on top of my trans issues...much of the abuse was because I'd been girlish as a child.

Even so, emotional trauma is a really hard row to hoe. I hope things get better for you!

And welcome to Susan's!

(eta: clarified second paragraph)

Hi Chris, welcome to Susan's. Your among friends now and we do understand. I look forward to seeing your around the forums. Good luck and hugs.
Mariah

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Hi Chris,

Welcome to the site. It is a great place for support and to throw out questions. Very little in the way harsh judgments.
I came to my exploration the opposite of you. I have reached middle age without knowing what was wrong with me, just something was off. Interestingly my therapist was trying to uncover any sort of trauma.

I hope you find the clarity in what you are looking for.

With loving thoughts,

Joanna

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