Just bear in mind that gender identity is a spectrum, just like sexual orientation. Some people sit firmly at one end or the other of male/female slider scale. Some people sit squarely in the middle (androgynous), most are actually part way to one side or the other, and heck, some even throw it out the window entirely and refuse to acknowledge it's existence in their lives, lol (non-binary). Additionally, some people's position on the scale changes from month to month, week to week, day to day, or moment to moment, etc...
What I'm saying is, "transgender" is really an umbrella term encompassing everyone who doesn't fall into the normal binary of gender roles. If you're a crossdresser, you're transgender, if you need/want to modify your body to match your gender identity, you're transgender, if you're non-binary, you're transgender, etc... You don't have to transition to identify as transgender, but you do have to identify what you need in your life to alleviate the dysphoria, anxiety, depression or whatever other symptoms are brought on by continuing to live exclusively as your assigned gender at birth.
Best advice you can get right now is to A) see a gender therapist to help you identify the right questions to ask yourself, and B) get out there and try some things to see what you like. Be it makeup, underwear, clothes, wigs, etc...
