Quote from: Cindy on June 07, 2015, 02:48:28 AM
I'm getting the 'have you completed your journey' comment from journos. Not sure what it means
but I reply that I am going to Canberra for a holiday later this year and that I do like to travel and will continue to do so.
Yeah I like that answer because its funny, and it highlights the many philosophical problems with the question.
I was thinking about the many different ways we all look at this difficult concept only this morning, and it struck me that its probably not the same for everyone, and the problems really start when we try to agree on a common definition. I actually don't think that is either possible or entirely necessary.
In a different thread Amber skillfully opened my eyes to the way in which I tend to view the world through an entirey physical/medical lens almost to the point of denial of everything else, and I realised the unintentional problems and hurt that internal model can sometime cause.
I mean for myself SRS GRS or whatever you want to call it was originally seen as 100% of everything and I used to think that having or not having it was a nice clean boundary where on one was side was male the other was female - the trouble is as soon as anyone says that it sounds as though they are disrespecting and denying the validity of others who dont share that view - and yet anyone who knows me will know that is the very last thing I believe! I passionately believe that we are all equally valid.
So I guess ultimately what I really think is that what makes you female or male is whatever YOU believe makes you female or male, and that actually need not be the same for everyone, because what is important here is how we define ourselves and not how others may want to label us.
For me that self definition IS completely tied to what sort of naughty bits I have - but for others that could be social presentation, mental gender, or any number of other things, and while I believe that I personally would not be female in my own eyes if I had not had SRS, I completely, totally and unreservedly accept that for others it is possible to be genuinely female (or indeed male for an FtM) without it.
In otherwords I find myself applying dual standards. So when we talk about completing our journey, I guess basically we can only mean having arrived at the place where we feel comfortable with ourselves.
That said I love the way you deflected the impertinent question.