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Few questions from a nonbinary boy

Started by SmartAlex, June 08, 2015, 04:15:55 AM

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SmartAlex

Ok so, I'm sure I'm nonbinary, and highly probably neutrois/agender, and here is my problem. Where I live, the language we speak doesn't offer neutral pronounce and almost any neutral word. So after a lot of wonderings about myself, the life I want to have and how I want to be considered by society, I've come to the conclusion that I would prefer to be a nonbinary boy. I think that would suits me better and also be better for everyone. So I took a big decision, I want to be a boy full time. Now of course, I have lots of questions for you guys, I hope you could answer them :)

1- How do I come out to my friends ?
That really scares me because I have few friends I really care for, I don't imagine living without them and I'm afraid I will loose them. I just want them to understand me without freak them out.

2- What should I say to people I'll meet next year ?
Hopefully I'll graduate this summer and next year, I'll go to uni. So of course there will be written "girl" everywhere on my school forms. But I want other students to refer me as a boy and make some friends as a boy.

3- Which bathroom do I use ?
Especially at uni where people will know me (in public places I don't really care tbh, I'll never see those people again)

4- Should I take T ?
It's not really on the agenda but I prefer think about it in advance. I'm a bit afraid of that because it would have some consequences I couldn't I couldn't hide, and I would have to come out to my extended family (such as my grandparents, uncles, cousins etc.). And I 'm not sure they would accept that :/

Thanks for reading !
Oh and I'm not really smart btw, "Smart Alex" is a song from The Adicts ^_^
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Bimmer Guy

I think it is hard for people to assist us in navigating how we come out (to parents/family) and to give advice on how to operate in the world (which bathroom to use), if we don't understand the person's culture well.  In some cultures it is more dangerous than others.

I would suggest trying to figure out who here on the site lives in your same culture/similar culture and ask them.

At minimum, be aware as to what culture the person is speaking from when you read their posts.  I would say that most of the guys here are U.S./UK.
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SmartAlex

Quote from: Alexthecat on June 08, 2015, 06:14:41 AM
Read up about them http://neutrois.me/
I already know this blog, but thanks it's quite interesting :)

Bimmer Guy :
I guess you're right, I'll try to find information
Oh and I'm not really smart btw, "Smart Alex" is a song from The Adicts ^_^
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