For a long time I thought being transgender was to be ashamed of and should be  hidden, I guess in my old age and finally being on HRT my opinion has changed significantly. I'm finding for the most part I'm having a great time. There are ups and downs , like whether or not I need GRS, but in everyday life it's a whole new world and I enjoying it.

Two blessing votes so far, we're running at 100%    All I know is I'm way much better than all the "normal" people!

Hugs, Devlyn

With everything I have faced and survived and how happy, confident and joyful my life has become since starting transition...I would say that without a doubt this life of mine is a blessing. There is just no way it isn't!

With the experience that comes with being trans I'd say its more of a curse, since I am female in mind, body, and soul being put in the wrong body seems like it happened with the purpose to make me suffer. Transitioning, and moving closer to my desired gender is what breaks the curse. I think.

I used to think of it as a curse and I'm hoping someday I'll realize it's a blessing, but right now I'd say neither.  It is what it is.

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While I haven't started hrt yet I did put it has highs and lows and I am guessing my opinion will have such in the future or change. From the sounds of it it really is more of a blessing then a curse though here is to hope:)

I can see it both ways. It has opened my eyes in ways I never thought possible. I personally haven't had any real major problems that would make me see it as a curse. However, I'm aware we are attacked, beaten, and rejected and I can see it as a curse for some of us because of that. I really do see it as a gift. I'm very fortunate to be in a place where I'm able to see it so positively.

Been a positive for me. I get to see both sides of the gender divide.

But if it means I'm alone for the rest of my life, that may change my view.

Usually I see it as a blessing. Just now I'm feeling cursed.

I went for "it just is" - because I can't know what it would be like to be anything else. It's certainly not a curse. There are disadvantages and advantages - so to me its just life.

I feel like it's both for me. The positive thing is that being trans made me a much more compassionate, strong, and courageous person. It allowed me to see things with multiple perspectives and helped me keep an open mind.

The bad things would be the inability to carry my own child, rejection from parents and some relatives, and the usual bigotry that accompanies being trans.

I love my life and myself now, im in a happy place and i wouldnt have it any other way.

A curse.

Many Cis men hate us. Many cis women hate us. Neither think we are real. You give up fertility and the ability to reproduce.

I would give anything for tech that would allow me to be cis. Anything .

Sometimes I just feel like it isn't worth it.

I have to say that for me, accepting who I am and moving in a positive direction in my life has done nothing less than allow me to live. I was so hell bent on putting my life on line every day either with drugs and booze or how I chose to make a living. this for me is a blessing I am still finding my path out of the hell I had placed me into, but it is totally without regret. I had completly given up on living as the "others" and with several years of therapy and a realization of the situation that I was trying to live with, I cannot wait for each day to begin.

"Highs and lows and from a unique perspective"............I`ve known little else, as I was an early identifier and benefited from early-teens transition in the 1970`s.

From puberty until I started getting useful treatment it was clearly the worst curse that could be given to a person. I had it so bad that suicide looked like a very good option. A few years after surgery, it became a blessing because I could see how my life had been shaped and I had developed the strength to overcome any hardship that came my way. The years of pain make me appreciate every day and the joy of living. This is a gift I would never had if my life had been an easy one.

A fething nuisance, which was even more annoying because sooner or later You have to deal with it and shoving it somewhere deep down does not really help either .

I can't agree more. Fortunately the family side isn't as bad as it was.

Quote from: .Christy on June 08, 2015, 03:40:10 PM
I feel like it's both for me. The positive thing is that being trans made me a much more compassionate, strong, and courageous person. It allowed me to see things with multiple perspectives and helped me keep an open mind.

The bad things would be the inability to carry my own child, rejection from parents and some relatives, and the usual bigotry that accompanies being trans.

I love my life and myself now, im in a happy place and i wouldnt have it any other way.

I may not have been drinking much, but I seriously thought what the hell am I doing with my life. It seemed meaningless and unfulfilled. At least it doesn't seem meaningless anymore. I'm too isolated to feel fulfilled. I'm hoping to change that, but Its a little scary since I've lived that way intentionally for a long time.

Quote from: Jerri on June 08, 2015, 03:43:14 PM
I have to say that for me, accepting who I am and moving in a positive direction in my life has done nothing less than allow me to live. I was so hell bent on putting my life on line every day either with drugs and booze or how I chose to make a living. this for me is a blessing I am still finding my path out of the hell I had placed me into, but it is totally without regret. I had completly given up on living as the "others" and with several years of therapy and a realization of the situation that I was trying to live with, I cannot wait for each day to begin.

I see it as a blessing now.

Being trans gave me a reason me to understand myself, and how I wanted to move forward, as oppose to following footsteps of those before me. I couldn't fit the mold, so I learned not to second guess myself, and my desires for myself, for the sake of everyone else.

Early in life, a curse, I had no idea what made me feel the way that I did and could not nor would not discuss it with anyone.  Too much guilt shame & fear. During puberty totally confused.  In early adulthood through late middle age both. Now in my late 60's and in transition a blessing.  I can accept myself without masking my pain with drugs and alcohol.  I am finally free to be me and I can love myself without reservation.