good information

For me my first was around 50ish days when I actually had one whilst dilating. Since then I've had multiple via, clitoral stimulation, vaginal penetration, vibrators, digits etc.
If I'm in the mood I can usually reach orgasm within 5-10 min and by god is it good hehe

I was able to reach orgasm within 3 months post op.  It was such a weird sensation at first but when i realized what was happening it was incredible.

I personally believe you MUST have extreme pain right after you wake up from your SRS in order for you to orgasm.  This is just my own opinion but most of the girls that I know that do not experience pain do not have orgasms.  I've discussed this with my OBGYN before and he agrees mainly because the nerve endings are alive which is why the pain is so intense.

I know my surgeon had mentioned that he would not give me enough morphine because he said it would be bad for me.  He also kept saying that pain is good for me to have. 

GoneGrl : Well, call me an exception; I had moderate pain (dropping to low-level after a couple days) and adequate pain relief, and I also orgasmed in my sleep at 3 weeks post-op. I DID have full sensitivity all over from the moment I woke up - made bandage changes interesting - but that doesn't necessarily equate to serious pain.

I would be very, very unhappy with a surgeon who refused pain relief and insisted pain was good, since the nerves are working whether you're getting the signals (pain) from them or not. That sounds sadistic.

Well I did talk about girls that said they had NO PAIN so there is a difference in your case because you experienced pain.   

In theory, it makes sense for there to be pain because that signals there is sensitivity and your doctor isn't over medicating you.  For there to be zero pain means the nerve endings are dead therefore no sensitivity.

Yeah during the time I was going through it, I was not a happy camper to say the least although keep in mind I had my surgery 23 years ago.  This may have been the method doctors used back then and considering all the botched surgeries then and even more now I'm rather relieved to have sensitivity and to be orgasmic.

If I didn't have that I think I would be on a plethora of meds or suicidal.

After reading this thread two weeks ago, I decided to seriously try to get something.

Its been over 7 weeks now since my surgery, but I was wanting to try something since the 3rd week. The current conical shape of the clitoris isn't helping any and bullet vibes only seem to vibrate the area into an aching numbness I.e. an anti-climatic sort of frustration.

BUT I was able to get something out of the pillow humping routine i had been doing for years before my surgery. I  would lock in the mindset while watching other girls videos on xhamster and imagine being on the receiving end. It takes 20 to 30 minutes of careful stimulation to get me there. I have noticed a little bit of bleeding from the grinding, but nothing more than what dilating can cause sometime if its sore from the previous session. It isn't any sort of OMG type of orgasm, which is what I'm hoping for within another year. I think I'll have better results by being in the mood rather than just direct pressure like before, but at least its good enough to relieve those urges this early in my post op life.

About a year and a half.

nowadays it's great

tip: don't want it to much, it comes when it comes. :-)

I am curious as to how many wanted the sex change for the orgasm primarily and then after the years of anxiety was drove to the point of not caring if they were orgasmic after the surgery.

Lanah : I'm actually not quite sure what you're asking. I transitioned because I wanted to live as a woman, not for orgasms - actually, the orgasms were quite good pre-transition, and HRT caused some problems off and on in that area - and had surgery because I wanted the right genitals (though obviously having them work and being able to orgasm would be better than not).

Ahh my wording was messed up I see what you meant there.  I wonder how many people did not initially seek the surgery in fear of loosing all ability to orgasm.  But after years of dysphoria were driven to not care whether or not they will ever be able to orgasm.

Quote from: lanah101 on June 12, 2015, 01:13:52 PM
I am curious as to how many wanted the sex change for the orgasm primarily and then after the years of anxiety was drove to the point of not caring if they were orgasmic after the surgery.

Quote from: lanah101 on June 14, 2015, 10:56:49 AM
Ahh my wording was messed up I see what you meant there.  I wonder how many people did not initially seek the surgery in fear of loosing all ability to orgasm.  But after years of dysphoria were driven to not care whether or not they will ever be able to orgasm.

ah ok then, for the original wording, that sort of stuff would of been addressed with the year or more of therapy necessary to qualify for surgery.

As frustrating as it is wanting to release desires like before but unfamiliar with how the new configuration works or if the software is even all set up yet to try, it pales in comparison to having achieved the goal of finally having the right layout overall... that achievement- being able to look in the mirror and see everything where/how it should be-  can be just as satisfying as any physical orgasm.

I had surgery with Dr. Menard and the outcome was excellent--no complications at all.
I wasn't orgasmic until I met my first husband though. I never was able to masturbate to orgasm--I could get close but never quite there. But my husband was very good at lovemaking, and gave me multiple orgasms everytime we made love. He wasn't entirely oral so my orgasms came from vaginal stimulation, very very little clitoral.
After we separated, I tried masturbation again and didn't get the big O either. I tried toys and whatnot but nothing worked to get me there.
My second/current husband  has never given me an orgasm. I don't know why. He isn't stellar in bed, his penis is much smaller than I was used to, and his lovemaking techique is not great. He does give me oral, and I do orgasm that way--multiple times. The only orgasms I have had with him were when I was on top and basically using him like a human dildo(sorry if that sounds unkind--lovemaking with him was horrid, so the only way I could orgasm was if I did it myself).

He was also a withholder--never giving me sex, using it as a weapon, etc. So I started watching porn and masturbating. That's when I had my first self-derived orgasm...awesome!! so I started exploring more and more of what felt good, what I like and what it takes to get me off. I can do in 10 minutes what it took my husband an hour to do with oral sex.

Orgasms post-op are awesome! There's a zillion varieties, and each one is amazing! I haven't heard of any surgeons these days who aren't able to give patients fully orgasmic equipment

Just over two months for me, feels good but very similar to my old ones oddly enough

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Quote from: GoneGrl on May 20, 2015, 08:04:24 PM

I personally believe you MUST have extreme pain right after you wake up from your SRS in order for you to orgasm.  This is just my own opinion but most of the girls that I know that do not experience pain do not have orgasms.  I've discussed this with my OBGYN before and he agrees mainly because the nerve endings are alive which is why the pain is so intense.

Not sure why you need pain after the op but maybe you're right.   Personally I had no pain after my op. I even walked down a flight of stairs 8 hours post op although that wasn't by choice.

Orgasm kinda just happened a few days ago and while I won't claim it was earth shattering it most definitely was there and I expect it to improve as I heal further. Being only 3 months post op I know I have allot more internal healing to do and nerves are still reconnecting although this is becoming less frequent.

Quote from: Riley Skye on June 21, 2015, 06:00:39 PM

Just over two months for me, feels good but very similar to my old ones oddly enough

I have to agree mine felt similar as well but at 2 months you'll have to heal more yet and it will I'm sure get more like other girls mention.

Quote from: lanah101 on June 14, 2015, 10:56:49 AM

Ahh my wording was messed up I see what you meant there.  I wonder how many people did not initially seek the surgery in fear of loosing all ability to orgasm.  But after years of dysphoria were driven to not care whether or not they will ever be able to orgasm.

I'll admit i decided I didn't and still don't care if I ever have sex or even orgasms again, I'd like some sex if I can but the reason for transition wasn't even remotely connected to sexual ability. I was once asked by a cis girl why if I'm a lesbian don't i just stay as a man because finding a gf will be allot easier that way? There followed a pretty good chat about the reasons for transition and I think she concluded I was crazy but hey ho 

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I am sure these questions will be answered in therapy. I guess everyone fears the unknown, but there has to be better than this unquenchable desire to be complete. This has to be more satisfying than an orgasm.

The first time I had an orgasm, I was watching a movie on TV that had a lot of emotion to it.  I had a good cry and then the guy and the women kissed and had some PG 13 sort of petting and I had an orgasm without touching myself.  Lest me pretty surprised that first time as it was really nice. 

I have finally had my first one using the pillow method. I am five months post op. I have had sensations for quite a while but could not tip myself over the edge until now. It was not like any pre op one. They were stronger but finished quicker. This was milder but longer and deeper. I must admit I was getting very frustrated so it is a big relief in every sense of the word to have finally had one. It is true that the mental aspect is very important.
I had no pain after my op so the theory that you needed to have had pain to orgasm is nonsense.

Oh Girls thank you so much for the pillow-methode suggestion ... works well

Had today my first O after 53 days post op - Yaay!!!

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