Hey so yesterday i came out to my sister she is the first person other than my doctor, and therapist that ive told i will be transitioning from male to female. She seemed accepting and supportive however i still couldnt help but feeling ashamed afterwards. Is it normal to feel ashamed when coming out? I know i shouldnt feel ashamed for being who i am or telling people but i do. Im not sure if its because i am just not happy with myself the way i am right now or because i dont know what other people will think of me. Has anyone else ever felt like this when coming out to family?

Hugs, Brandi. The shame is hard to escape, given how the world seems to view us.

For me, it faded over time, as I became comfortable with myself as a woman. Until then, I learned to hold my head high and own who I am. I didn't ask to be transgender, but I'm facing it head on. At the same time, I'm showing the world the proud face of transgender.

Face it, we end up wiser and tougher than most, right? We'll see the world from both sides of the gender divide and bear the physical and emotional battle scars that come from clawing our way to where we need to be.

Quote from: BrandiCondello on June 26, 2015, 10:37:54 AM
Hey so yesterday i came out to my sister she is the first person other than my doctor, and therapist that ive told i will be transitioning from male to female. She seemed accepting and supportive however i still couldnt help but feeling ashamed afterwards. Is it normal to feel ashamed when coming out? I know i shouldnt feel ashamed for being who i am or telling people but i do. Im not sure if its because i am just not happy with myself the way i am right now or because i dont know what other people will think of me. Has anyone else ever felt like this when coming out to family?

Yes, I came out to my mother recently and have had reoccuring feelings of shame the past week.

I'm considering going to a T-meeting, perhaps, you should too  ? Acceptance and talking about it goes a long way.
Or just being around others is great, an sich.

Actually, you should feel relieved and happy. You're sharing with others this is who you really are. When I came out to my spouse, a big load was lifted off my shoulders.

I think if you are holding a secret for so long.. and then you finally have the courage to let your guard down and say how you are feeling. I think because you seen it as a secret  you will experiance shame,  even though it is a relieve because your secret is no more and you can finally be you... so yes i think shame is there but as a mis-directed way... and as time passes the thought of what you are feeling now will seem not as important because you will be happy....

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Oh yes the shame - and the 'what am I ashamed of?'

I was assigned male at birth (AMAB). I'm a woman.

I'm a transsexual woman.

I walk my path with my head held high, a smile on my face and a glint in my eye.

I have overcome so much. I have survived against odds I don't wish to think about.

I'm ME: A very proud trans*woman.

I have NOTHING to be ashamed off.

Neither do you!

Walk your path and be proud.