So there I was, standing and talking to a friend of mine while sunbathing...I had shorts on and a bikini top, we had just finished putting on the final touches of suntan oil, and were just chatting happily....

A guy walks up, says hi to my friend (he knows her, but not me). I notice that not only is he kinda cute but he is...very....manly. This does not trigger attraction, rather it triggers my old response "I gotta make him think I'm a guy!" without my even knowing it (its been years since I felt that).

So, standing next to a calf-high walkway, I put one foot up and lean forward, adopting a pose as if he and I were talking about....you know, manly stuff. He and our friend continue talking for a few minutes then he leaves....and that's when I notice that I am in a man-pose even though I have breasts and mid-thigh-shorts on.

OMG!! talk about getting one's wires crossed!!!

Fortunately I won't see him again, so....lesson learned I suppose.

Well feelings can influence posture...
you could try to relax and just be yourself in such situations... 


hugs

A few months ago, I tried to do the "male pose" and I forgot how to do it. I thought I had it and I realized I was standing totally femmy. I wonder if it's still there in my cortex waiting for an embarrassing time to come out.

I was like that before.Acting "bossy" when a guy approaches my friend.I had crush on her.Maybe that's why.Now I prefer beating arguments in calm way..

I was in a meeting with four men the other day, there was a risk I cpuld have resorted to "being a man" to make sure my point was made, I know how men can be towards women in meetings after all. I still managed to make my point while keeping my femme charm.