I've decided on the final result that I want from my body, but I have a lot of questions and uncertainties about it.

I'm not particularly interested in bottom surgery. I don't mind what's there, I don't really want to give it up. That said, I can't help but worry about the possibility for loss of functionality or sensitivity from HRT. Don't think it's right for me.

Now...given that fact...is there any way I can be accepted with just top surgery, FFS, and/or VFS? Combine that with hair removal and a tracheal shave, and that's pretty much the approach I want to take. But...is it a viable option? Is it even possible? I mean, I can certainly imagine a plastic surgeon denying top surgery to someone who isn't going for full-on SRS, they'd probably think I was outta my mind.

I guess what I'm worried about is the "middle ground" between physical genders. Can I be accepted as female if I don't alter my genitalia? I certainly wouldn't go flaunting it, and I'm no fetish item, I just think that's how I would be most comfortable. I still want my own breasts, instead of prosthetics or inserts, but...I'm just really confused right now.

Since all those surgeries are rated as "cosmetic" by insurance, even for TG's, all it takes is a lot of ca$h and shopping around. Many surgeons may be reluctant without a CYA letter from a therapist. In reality, HRT IS dangerous stuff. It can, and has, killed plenty of people. Most likely it will kill things downstairs after some time. Getting clearance from a therapist should not be a big problem if you had to

I know I definitely need to see a therapist before anything. Gotta make sure this is REALLY what I want and what's best for me. I just worry about being accepted as a woman without the southern bits being rearranged. Obviously, it's the kind of thing you keep to yourself, but if someone notices somehow...

Plenty of women never done the bottom surgery.

I have a strong reckoning I may withheld that surgery last... it's not needed to be socially accepted as a female. Do I hate my genitals? It's there, but I don't hate it.

Quote from: StrykerXIII on July 04, 2015, 01:02:41 PM
I know I definitely need to see a therapist before anything. Gotta make sure this is REALLY what I want and what's best for me. I just worry about being accepted as a woman without the southern bits being rearranged. Obviously, it's the kind of thing you keep to yourself, but if someone notices somehow...

Screw it.

I am a transgender woman! WOMAN. Hear me roar!

Make you happy, don't worry about world being happy. You won't please everyone. Someone will clock you. Hell, I was clock as a WOMAN, when I present as a MAN (when I had long hair).

Haters gonna hate.

Quote from: Wild Flower on July 04, 2015, 01:05:03 PM
Screw it.

I am a transgender woman! WOMAN. Hear me roar!

Make you happy, don't worry about world being happy. You won't please everyone. Someone will clock you. Hell, I was clock as a WOMAN, when I present as a MAN (when I had long hair).

Haters gonna hate.

Haha, I'll never forget all the time I spent getting the "ma'am" bit from people when my hair was longer back in high school. Used to tweak my nerves, but of course, I didn't understand myself back then.

I guess I need to talk to my friend Jess. She's going through HRT and has no plans for bottom surgery either, I should probably get her take on it.

When I requested the prescription for HRT to the surgeon after getting an approval letter from a psychiatrist, he said I may have better living without HRT, as I am married. At that time, I was dressed fully as a woman.

Some of my friends treat me as a woman, although they know well I am a dad. I do not mind so much what people call me. I just enjoy expressing my femininity.

barbie~~

I personally don't think that you have to undergo HRT to transition. I thought about not doing it but I am glad that I did. I like how I feel on estrogen. I like the changes it is making to my body. Some of the changes can come with having surgery, ie breasts, facial shape etc.  Some require hormones ie skin softening, reduced hair growth on the body, fat redistribution etc. At a minimum, you will need to take testosterone blockers otherwise you can develop male pattern baldness.

In the end, you have to make decisions that will make you happy. If you make decisions based on what others want you to do, you can end up very disappointed. You may think your helping by compromising on what you do because someone else will be happier with that. Eventually, you may be unhappy with it and have resentments, they may be unhappy because what they really wanted was not the compromise but you not doing anything at all and then they have resentments. I know it's sometimes hard to understand but really you need to be happy with yourself before others can be happy with you since I made the decision to transition I have never felt better more confident in myself than I do now. Living as my true self has been liberating to such a degree that it is almost impossible to explain. For once in my life I feel truly normal.

can you be socially accepted as a women without getting srs??

absolutely! I really don't go around telling strangers what I have down stairs. The only people that need to know that are the people that I have romantic couplings with lol ( how romantic it is may very ). Society doesn't know what genitals you have, so if you are seen as a women you will be treated as such.... regardless of genitalia.

I never plan on getting srs. I thought about an orchi, but that is only if I do lose functionality. I don't actually want a vagina, and I came to accept my self as a women regardless of that fact. Societies opinion of me doesn't actually matter.

Also I have been with a girl and she was over 1 1/2 years on hrt, and she didn't lose functionality yet. Im approaching 7 months and I haven't lost functionality. I also have a friend who just got surgery and she didn't lose functionality ever (besides from surgery) and she was on hrt for almost 4 years. so  it might not even happen to you, but if you are afraid of the risk I cant blame you for not taking it.